Parenting is one aspect of life that many run away from. Parenting a child or children goes beyond just giving birth to a child and providing the basic needs of the children. It cuts across spiritual, mental, and physical well-being; it is a serious call to responsibility. I define responsibility as a call to respond to the ability that is inbuilt. This is why I say that not everyone understands this to a good extent, because if we did, society would have been better than the way it is today.
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Parenting is a call to partnership between both couples, especially when both are still alive. For instance, when it comes to child discipline, the other person won't insist that the child be left, and before you know it, I know of parties formed at home. One person will assume that he owns the child more than the other. Personally, I prefer for both parents to be together so as to properly care for the children and the child won't in anyway feel that the person who corrects him more hates him. But in most cases in this our age things don't work out so much like that.
These days we get so carried away with trying to make ends meet forgetting the fact that if we have all the money and the children are not properly cared for they may end up being a nuisance to the community. For this I am of the opinion for the couple to negotiate and know who will be mostly home so as to take care of the wellbeing of the kids instead of leaving them to the care of nanny's. Though there are house helps who delivers so well but many of them impact the kids negatively. I have an in-law who was working in the same environment the family was staying, after a while he was transferred out of the state. Well, the agreement he entered with the wife was for her to stay at the base and care for the kids while he comes for visit on most weekends.
The future of the kids will not have an obvious issue if both parents are working as a team. Now, when the dad or mom comes home and the party notices a misbehavior, it will be important for the correction to be informed. It is also important to listen more to what the partner has to say more because kids are specialists in playing emotions to the point you feel they are so innocent. This reminds me of when my son was so tender; my husband is one person that finds it difficult to beat a child when he is wrong, and in my own part, I will not be so much, but when I remember to do so, I do it very well.
My son did something one day, and I was disciplining him just for the dad to kick against what I was doing without asking to know what really happened. That didn't go down well with me, so I just faced this boy and gave him a strict warning. Since then, he stopped those kinds of games. Imagine I kept quiet; it would come to a point that he would see it, that I hate him or something. When we agree on what to do as parents, it better shaped the future of the kids than when everyone talked differently on issues that relate to the raising of kids or other matters of the home.
There just has to be this agreement between the couple. My response to the Hive Learners contest week #153 edition 1. Thank you.
