When it comes to the upbringing of a child, it is ideal that the child be brought up by both parents and others that are around them. Having just one parent providing all the support and need of a child or children can prove to be very effective in some ways but overall, it most times leads to negligence in some aspects of proper upbringing. As someone who has the experience of growing up with a single parent, I know that a lot of things would have been different and probably better for me if I had both my parents by my side while growing up.
In as much as it can also be a case of upbringing regardless of how many parents are involved, when both parents are doing the job of bringing up of their children, it makes the work way easier and pleasurable. I have two siblings, a girl and a boy. That makes us two girls and a boy and my dad was the only one that was readily available to provide for all our needs. He didn’t have to tell us that he struggled really hard at almost every point but my dad never gave up on giving us the best he could provide. I remember some nights when I wake up and find him just sitting there probably thinking of how he is going to pay off a debt or do one or two things for us.
Seeing him that way alone, it was obvious that he would have done better if he had someone to help him. He tried to meet up in different areas of our upbringing but for the fact that we were girls, I’m very sure my dad had some things that took him a while to understand about his girls. In this aspect, my sister and I were lucky to have good people around if not, we would have made so many wrong decisions which would have barely even come up if my mum was there to help out. Back then, I remembered always feeling bad that my dad always got my brother things than he did for my sister and I.
Not until I grew to a point to understand that my dad only did that because it was way easier for him to get things for my brother because he was a boy, not because he doesn’t want to get things for us. This is just a little part of negligence, there are so many areas too that a child might suffer neglect if he or she is brought up by just one parent. Although, it is still very possible for a child to be neglected even when both parents are available but then, it is not something that is so evident unlike a single parent bringing up his or her child/children.
Some effects of having a parent absent in the upbringing of a child can be; a child having the wrong perspective towards some areas of life. Finding it hard to trust people to stay. Scared to be committed in a relationship. Finding it hard to socialize very well. Low self esteem is also possible and many more. There will definitely be some negative effects of growing up with just only one parent readily available to support and help out. Life will be a lot easier and beautiful if we have both of our parents playing their parts.
This is my response to the Hivelearners topic on ”A PARENT ABSENT”.
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