Ever been with anyone who made you question your self worth? They could be your friends, parents, siblings, spouse or anybody at all. That right there, is a manipulative person and you should do all you can to run from them.
Manipulative people are very toxic, they will do something wrong, but manipulate you to believe you are the wrong one and even make you apologize, they can make your emotions fluctuate, make you question your identity and self worth, make you see yourself as a nobody and still make you hang around them!
See why you need to run once you sense any tiny bit of manipulation? They story even gets worse once the person being manipulated is looking for some sense of validation. This is one of the major reasons people don't leave toxic relationships.
I know of a girl, Coco who had an emotionally unavailable father and lived with her step-mum, she never really received the validation she needed as a child, not like she was neglected, but she was not shown love. Her father was rich, so he always bought her different things any child could crave for, but that didn't fill up the empty space in her heart crying out for love and acceptance.
Note, money doesn't and can never replace the place of validating your child, accepting and loving her in deeds and in WORDS.
While growing up, she will throw herself at anyone, regardless of the gender, who showed her any iota of love, even if it was fake. She would forcer herself on friends and follow them anywhere they went even if they bullied her or made her feel less of herself.
So many times, I will look at this beautiful and bright looking girl and wonder if she even knew her worth at all or she appreciated herself and it turned out she didn't!
"How did I know?" You may wonder. Well, remember I said Coco threw herself at people as long as she felt a sense of validation or acceptance there regardless of their gender. There's a word Coco must not hear, If she does, just forget it, she's gone! I mean, you can have all of her.
Coco must not hear these three letter words "I LOVE YOU" oh my! When you now top it with a little bit of care or tell her she's beautiful, Coco will forever do what you ask of her even if you treat her like trash!
Coco will stay in am abusive relationship, either verbal or physical, as long as she heard those three empty words, or you show her an iota of care and love.
Coco's friends made her feel less of herself, less intelligent, less important. The guys she dated used her right before her very own eyes, deep down she knew she was being used but still stayed because she subconsciously wondered where else she would get love or acceptance.
People like Coco who stay in toxic relationships don't plan to, but due to one reason or another, they stay there. One of the reasons is when people don't know their self worth and are craving external validation.
One of the worst things that can happen to anyone is to be unaware of manipulative people around you.
In my own terms, if someone makes you see yourself as a nobody, that person is toxic, if that person makes you feel less or questions your talents, run, if the person always feel he or she is right and you are the wrong person,watch out, that might be a manipulative person right there.
Long story cut short, Coco was able to gain her freedom after attending a conference where she learnt about self Worth and self esteem.
A lot of people out there are like Coco, they will be able to cut off toxic relationships once they come to the knowledge of their worth.
Thanks for reading.
