Maybe it's being the first and only child of my mum, or just the natural resilient person I have built myself to be, one way or the other, I've learnt to encourage myself even when no one is there's no one there for me. The quote "be your own greatest cheer leader" is something I grew into.
It's surprising and amazing how inanimate objects and even nature can actually teach humans how to live. Thanks to my hair, something I knew before became more real and practical to me and I'll love to share it with you.
Truth be told, I wish I had an elder one, who I could always cry to whenever I was stuck, and needed to hear words of encouragement, but I had to wake myself out of that dream and face reality, thanks to my journal anyways... It has been with me through thick and thin, I love you journal.
I have a very special gift. I can make my own hair myself (not every style, but the basic ones). I remember when people used to be scared of such ladies because they thought they used to put their heads on their legs to make the hair 🤣. Please I'm not a witch, I'm a daughter of Zion, glory 🙌.
I made this hair myself some over a month ago, I was motivated by a YouTuber, Seun Okimi and wanted to keep it for two months, as it will help me grow longer hair, but the spontaneity in me decided to show up and I just made a decision to lose the hair all of a sudden.... and that was when I started thinking about my life.
I don't know who sent me to do veeery tiny braids with my hair, I was staring at it in the mirror and was now thinking of how to loose it. Well, since the hair just stared back at me and refused to loose itself, I started losing it and... many unbearable hours later, I packed the hair I've loosed together and I realized I can as well say I've not loosed anything at all.
I became discouraged. You know when you put a lot of effort into something, expecting something worthwhile and what you get is not up to what an ant can take at one bite... Well... Maybe I'm exaggerating, but it was really discouraging.
I really wanted to stop, but almost immediately, a quote dropped in my mind "progress is progress, no matter how small, keep going!" Whew mheeen, that quote was stuck on my heart like peanut butter sticks to bread. It felt like I was not doing anything, but in reality, the one that I've loosed is one down from the rest and it can't come back.
Then it got me thinking about how we give up on some things most times especially because we can't see the results immediately.
Quitting the gym because you still can't see your packs after 1 week, giving up on your diet because you still weigh the same after 1 month, giving up on that girl because she hasn't said yes after three weeks of official wooing coughs, giving up on having better habits because you can't see changes yet.
You can be tired and that's fine, take a break and then come back. While losing my hair, I was hungry and had to step out to get something, my hair was a total mess, but I found a way to change that mess to a message (a new style).
When I got back, I was tired, plus my arms were on fire 🔥 (from loosing the hair), so I just left the style like that and decided to CONTINUE LATER. So don't quit when you're tired, pause and then CONTINUE LATER.
All I have to say to anyone trying to achieve something, but isn't seeing enough results is: PROGRESS IS PROGRESS, NO MATTER HOW LITTLE, if you don't stop moving, you'll surely get there.... just as I eventually finished losing my hair.
Finally, little results can discourage you, but let it push you so that you can produce more results, don't let it result to no results.
See you at the top
Cheers 🥂