Assalamu Alaikum, I hope everyone is well Alhamdulillah I am also fine. Posting in hive learner's community after a long time and today I came across such a beautiful topic on the social network which I really like. Anyway, without further ado, let's move on to the main topics.
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- Today our topic is social networks.
At the outset I would like to share with you some of my own thoughts. As our social network has now become many types and as we have created a virtual and real life network which is like a kind of social network in our real life I have also created a network with the people around my house. So today I am going to discuss these two types of networks with you.
- First I am talking about my real life social network:
My first network started from my house, we are 8 members in my house, parents, brothers, sisters, wives, children. Then my local neighbors and the shops from which I buy and sell products in the market are also covered in my network. I have experienced different behaviors from people in my network and learned a lot from them which should be shared with all of you because maybe someone like me is facing this problem.
First I start with my room. All my family members love me very much. But sometimes I suffer a lot from their behavior. I feel they show me more love when I have a good income which means I have more money. I basically want to tell you that when I have money, my family members love me more. On the contrary, when I have very little or no money, I know how their behavior changes, I feel like they never love me, only love my money.
I am trying to explain to you why I said this. I was an expatriate for four long years. I used to earn good money for everyone in the family and spend it on their backs. Everyone would look up to me. I would do whatever I said. If anyone in my family needed anything, they would ask me for it and I would give it to them with a smile. If someone had an event or needed to make a decision, everyone would discuss it with me first. What I would have said would have been if you had said it is not like this, it would be better to do it like this. But indirectly for the past three years I am in the country so I don't have much money and my earning source is not that good now I can feel that maybe no one loves me like before. Now I am not involved in any family work, I am not asked what to do or not to do.
I am not invited to any event now. But once in a while relative's event means not mine at the beginning and now I'm out of the list. Inside my house everyone treats me like I am living in someone else's house because now I can't satisfy them with money. And another thing was not said, I have no one to tell my parents. No one will misunderstand them that they are both dead. I am now living in my uncle's house joint family. So this is my family's network. If there is money in the pocket, the network is good. If there is no money in the pocket, the network is not very good.
Now let's talk about my social situation outside the house. When I came to the country from abroad, the people around me constantly took me to shops and forced me to have tea and something to eat. While walking on the road, everyone would ask how are you, how are you, how are you. I also used to treat them very nicely and make them sit in the shop and have tea and breakfast. 1,500 taka was spent on people around me every day. So everyone loved me. In the event that starting from the tea shopkeepers, even the grocery shopkeepers would not hesitate to give me the balance. If I had said that I have no money in my pocket now, they would have given me the goods and even cash money which I would have paid later, brother.
And now that I am in the country, my source of income is not at such a good level. Due to which no one mingles with me as much as before and no one calls me to come and have tea if I see them on the street. And if the shopkeepers want the rest, they say, brother, I am in trouble. The rest cannot be given.
So from this it can be understood that if our financial condition is not good, our networks are not good.
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Now let's talk about our friend circle network: When I was good, I was very close to all my friends. Still good except for a few. Among those few are those with whom I have had financial dealings. Those whom I have lent money to today are reluctant to contact me because I can no longer help them financially and I am constantly asking them for the money they have taken from me due to which they are not contacting me. On the other hand I have some other friends whom I have never helped or they have never asked me for help but still I have a very good relationship with them they are always supporting me with money or wisdom. He is helping me in any way he can. From this I have learned that my true friend never expects any help from me. But at one time I did not have much contact with all my friends, today they are standing by my side in danger. And those who were in contact day after day and talked night after night, today they have turned their backs on me and left.
And from this I realized that good friends are always there to help in times of danger. Friends who come for selfish reasons don't last long.
In my whole story today, I want to tell you that when our financial condition is good, our network is very good with our family, friends, or you say people around us. Slowly getting weaker. We have a proverb in Bangladesh, the proverb is that everyone gives oil to the head of an oil burner, no one gives oil to someone who does not have oil. That means everyone wants to have a relationship with someone who has money and no one wants to have a relationship with someone who doesn't have money except mom.
So friends until today. Whatever I wrote today is completely from my reality, I hope you will like it, thank you Allah Hafez.