Hello everyone, meet again with me @rahmatandesti. How are you? Hopefully all of you are healthy and smooth in living this life. For those of you who are not well, I hope you get well soon, so you can return to your normal activities.
On this occasion, I am here again to greet all of you in the Hive Learners community, in a featured contest held by the Hive Learners community every week. The 51st Week Contest has ended and this week has entered the 52nd Week contest and in this first edition we will discuss something very good about parents, about how we become parents to our children. What we used to do, but we will forbid it for our children. And something that parents have done to us before, but we will not do that to our children. Of course we have our own way of educating children, all of that is definitely not far from our experience as a child. For that I will share my opinion a little on this matter.
Becoming a parent is not something easy because there are many responsibilities that we have to bear especially in educating children, we cannot educate children arbitrarily because what we teach when they are children will always be carried with them until they grow up. For that we must educate our children well so that one day he can be a good person as well as we hope. Everyone definitely wants their children to be good, but if we are wrong in educating and teaching them, we will definitely regret it in the future. To prevent that, we must be very good at taking a stand for children from the time they are small. Everything we do since he was small will guide the direction of his life path in the future.
In educating children, we must have something that we will teach him to do and there will also be something that we will prohibit him from doing. We must have calculated all of these actions as a result of our experiences in the past. We will definitely teach him something that we think is good and will forbid him for actions that we think are bad or something that will have a bad effect on him. Something that I have done in the past but in my opinion it was a bad action and I don't want my child to do it is to be too wasteful and like to buy something that I think is not useful. I want my child to live more frugally and know what is useful for himself. I want my child to be more independent than me so he will be more confident in what he does. I want him to be able to divide his time so that he knows better when it's time for him to play and when it's time for him to study and use his time for something good for himself.
The actions of our parents in the past are of course one of the benchmarks for teaching our children in the future, but not all of these actions can be imitated so that we can teach them for our children. I am very grateful to my parents for teaching me so well that they have made me a very good person. A lot has been taught to me but there are actions that I think are excessive so that it makes me less able to develop but it's not something bad but it's not right for me to practice it on my child.
One of those actions was spoiling my child too much and being too restrictive in doing things. For me, spoiling a child makes him use people who don't appreciate things because he can have them easily. Pampering him also makes him more arrogant when he wants something so he will do various ways to get what he wants. What we have to do is to give him something he needs and is useful to him. When he wants something we have to make him explain to us why he wants it and make him have to be more patient to get the thing he wants. I want my child to be more open to himself and able to choose what he needs for himself. I want him to be more open with around and able to explore what he's passionate about so he can develop the interests that he has. I just want to monitor what he's doing and steer in a better direction. I don't want to forbid my child from doing something, but I will give him an explanation of whether his actions are good or bad so that he can know more about the actions he is taking even though they are outside my control as his parents.
Everyone has their own way that he thinks is good for him. All of that is inseparable from his experiences in the past. But in educating our children we must always learn because every child has his own way of accepting the teachings of his parents. Therefore, we must know more about our children's personality so that we don't educate them wrongly and make them become the different person we want them to be. All of that is not far from the fault of us as well as their parents.
That's all the discussion that I can convey on this occasion. Hopefully it can answer the discussion in this edition. Sorry if there are mistakes in my writing above. I really hope for constructive criticism and suggestions from all of you who have read it. Thank you very much for visiting my post this time. May we always be a good person in this life.
All of my writing above I wrote above using Indonesian, then I translated it into English using the help of Google Translate.
