No Money, No Love?

There was this funny saying in the university dorm "No money, No love" - It was used to generally put guys that were in love back to their senses urging them to forget about love as it would never end well without money.

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What do you think? Is love possible without money?

This question has been asked a lot of times in different parts of the world. A look at Quora, and seeing people's answers have made me put my hands on my keyboard to write about this. First, let's take a close look at two opposite answers I saw.

No. It is a huge lie.
I have been studying the history of love and never, I mean it, never has someone been loved if they did not have money. You will never be loved back if you are penniless. Thousands of years of human history and billions of people and it has never happened. No money = no love. It always was and always will be.

• Nikolaos Vafeidis

I got married when I was pretty well broke. We got the church for free. My wife’s mother made her wedding dress and cake. A kind lady that did flowers let us have the flowers and decorations from a previous wedding for free. The old preacher said some words as his wedding gift to us. And I got some cheap plastic flowers and lace and made my wife’s wedding bouquet with my own hands.
The wedding was wonderful. We were broke. We were desperately in love. We still are today all these years later. And we always will be.
So the answer to your question is that you can indeed have true love without money. And then decades later when you are successful, you will look back very fondly on those early learning years.

• Tom Handy

Both statements have contradictory ideas, one says it's possible to still find love while being broke and another says it won't just work without available funds.
For me, I would say yes I concur with the latter that says money is also necessary for love to work out. Don't get it twisted, love is a beautiful thing like the Nigerian artiste Dbanj would say, but you also have to bear in mind that money is the easiest way to show affection. Ever would why women get flattered by the presence of a gift or let me not be all gender-specific? Ponder upon it for a moment or two, why is it that humans are naturally predisposed to the idea that spending on them shows that you care? Why is it that after offending your spouse or loved one, one of the best ways to show your apology is by getting a nice gift and tendering an apology? Take a sec, and look at it, have you realized that most times the gift goes a long way compared to the words of apology?

Yeah, if you are done thinking about it, you would come to realize that money plays a big role in making one fall more for you. It doesn't mean that the person is probably a gold digger or primarily after your cash or in some situations that may be the case, but it just goes to show that money makes the love story sweeter or even more exciting. Take, for example, the popular erotic movies Fifty Shades of Grey and 365 Days. Have you come to think about why most ladies were intrigued by the love story in those movies down to the extent that the producers of those movies had to create a continuation, even though some do not want to admit it because they feel it will reveal their deep lustful desires?

Yes, you are right if you thought deeply about it. It's because of the money status those guys were able to display in the movies. How they were able to shower gifts upon the lady that was driving their fantasy. Come on, the idea of taking a lady to a beautiful island filled with nothing but luxury, a private jet at your disposal, enough cash at your disposal to make use however you damn please, or building the macho effect in the mind of a person, physically endowed with a good body physique, protective nature that gives you the feeling of safety and the trait some bad boy tendency disguised with corporate elegance. Oh please, spare me the theatrics, if that isn't money talking, then what is it?

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These and more are how the producers of these movies were able to showcase a kind of love story everyone craves for. The one filled with love, passion, desire, and most of all wealth. This made it sweeter every day to love the person and try new things without the fear relinquish. Or like popular R&B artiste Adekunle Gold would say

Love is sweet oh but when money enters love is sweeter.

Although what Tom Handy said

So the answer to your question is that you can indeed have true love without money. And then decades later when you are successful, you will look back very fondly on those early learning years.

stuck with me and I admire how various people came together to make his wedding a reality which I am sure has given him the confidence that love can work without money. Not to argue with him or say otherwise but you need to remember that he also said a decade later when you are successful, you will look back fondly on those learning days which means in the end even if you are still in love with someone, you still have to be successful and how we measure how successful you are in the world of today is by how much money you possess and control. This is the only way you can look back at the learning days fondly without any form of regret.

In Conclusion...

loving can be hard and sometimes demanding because it requires you to be vulnerable and open to the person whom you love but I can tell you that the feeling is GOLDEN, and take it from the heart of a man in love.

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