Change is one thing said to be constant in the life of every living thing and not just human beings.
When someone changes for good, that is a thing of joy but, the pain comes when a child who was formerly good suddenly becomes bad... Nothing pains parents as that especially mothers.
Thinking about this makes me remember one of our neighbours, Chidera.
Chidera's dad is the catechist in our Catholic church and as a result of that, he comes to morning masses and Sunday masses without missing a single day all year round.
Chidera's dad will always go to all those church activities taking Chidera along with him ever since Chidera could walk.
Chidera was the model child every parent wanted to the extent that even my parents would say, "can't you behave like Chidera" when I pull off some of my wonderful tricks, lol.
We kept on growing and I personally left for secondary school as a boarding student while Chidera stayed back as a day student attending a Catholic secondary school.
Fast forward to the present day, Chidera was killed last year.
It happened that Chidera suddenly started changing, stopped coming to church and always engaged in verbal confrontation with his parents. He was influenced by bad peer groups he followed and not long enough, he joined a cultist group.
Last year when two cult groups were fighting, Chidera was killed and that was the end of the model child...
When I heard news of Chidera's demise, I can't just wrap the whole thing around my neck of how the model child suddenly changed for bad to the extent of losing his life to his change.... I felt bad for his parents; "All Those Years For Nothing"
What if my child decides to change to a different religion / culture?
To be honest, changing to a different culture, religion or anything at all isn't a big deal to me, not saying that I would be very happy about that, but then, once it's a good change, he or she will have my support.
Although some of these things we write about aren't as easy as they are when you're facing them in reality so I really pray it doesn't happen to me, hehehe, especially that of religion; I mean, I know it's same God we are serving but what if my child grew up to enter into Eckankar or some other religions I personally don't like, it'll definitely eat me up.
What else can I do to an adult who is decided to choose his path?
There is literally nothing coercion can do to change the situation but rather it will worsen it, so it's just to accept it and move on
No parent wants their child to depart from the laid down good morals they have laid for them but rather for them to change to bad, it is better they change cultures, lifestyle and even religion because you literally can't do anything when it goes South.
Thanks for reading and have a nice day
