you find yourself giving-up?
Too many times, very often I have been on this table, and I am sure as hell that you also have been on this table in one time of your life, and why is it so? Probably, this is how life is. We make goals, we make plans, we tell ourselves that we would do this but yet we forget our commitments, we forget our dedications and we give up along the way.
This applies to me when I was thinking of all the online courses that I have completed half way, which I know that I would have completed in less than 3 months if only I chose to be dedicated and consistent.
I had some nostalgia feeling when I was going through my videos in my phone and I saw a portfolio website that I built for myself while I was still learning frontend in 2021. The portfolio website was beautiful, and I asked myself, If I want to build this website again this moment, can I? The obvious answer is NO. I had stopped frontend development 3 years ago, but yeah, I still remember quite some things about it. Or maybe yes, I could, but with some dedicated time over some crash course to remember things I may have forgotten.
The point here is not about my learning of frontend per se but a reminder that consistency is difficult, remaining committed to something is difficult, and along the way you will lose focus. You will lose sight of the end goal, of why you started it in the first place, and that is the point you go off the rails; you will forget the prize, and the reason for committing to that goal would never be attained.
What is the way out?
One way that I know to staying committed to a goal is to "GO ALL IN" and give yourself no OPTIONS. There will be times when you will feel tired but the truth is, when you start thinking of option B, most likely you tend to go off the rail. You tend to lose focus and forget why you committed at the first instance.
The uncomfortable part of it is that the circle continues. If you don't learn to stay committed to a goal without thinking of a second option, you will keep jumping from one incomplete goal to another. Why? Because you always think of another option along the line.
The truth is, the excitement of starting a goal does not always remain the same along the journey; that is why we fall off. We forget our commitments and choose to go for another option. The same reason why people forget their new year resolutions.
Making New Year resolutions can be so exciting—the planning and the feeling. But let me tell you this: the feeling will wear off, and if you don't remember your commitment to why you made the goal, you will fall off and start the circle again.
