The Emotional Impact of Discovering You’re Adopted

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In an advent that someone discovers they were adopted and not a biological child to their parents, it's usually going to be a painful pill to swallow, as it might go on to arose loads of questions and possibly a disappointment feeling. I won't say it's betraying because for parents to hide such information from a child, one of the reasons is to most like not make them feel like an outsider. Although relating the same to myself, I can't help but wonder how I'll handle such a revelation, but in this article, I'll talk about it extensively.

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So the thing is, the only parent and siblings I've known right from when I can differentiate between my rights and my left are my current parents, and although they've made some decisions that I'll say might have made me end up saying no wonder they had allowed some occurrence in the past, if I'm being truthful to myself, then I'll know for a fact deep within me that these people loved me and have done everything within their capabilities to fend for me in every way possible, just as they did with my siblings.

But in the advent that I realized I'm the odd one among my current family, I'll feel like an outsider, I'll have questions about how I ended up in their home, who my actual parents are, and what happened that led to them leaving me to be nultured by someone else entirely, but one thing is certain, and it's the fact that despite how disheartening this revelation can be, it's worth noting that I won't be one bit angry with these people who I've come to know as my family.

And the reason is because they've not treated me like I'm an outsider amongst my siblings or made me lack any basis needs that they can afford to give to my siblings, so getting angry with them is absolutely out of the question, and instead I'll give them a big hug for all they've done. even though I know the new revelation will open a portal of quest for me to go in search of my actual parents, with a mindset of trying to at least know them and find out why I was cast out, or paraventure, they had died, and that's why I ended up with my current family, who had adopted me, so I won't have to suffer like most orphans do.

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In fact, I've no right to be angry with my immediate family; if paraventure I want to be angry, then it should be towards my actual parents, but to these ones who I've known all my life, I just have to be grateful, and neither will I question why they never told me I was adopted. I mean, even though I won't tell a child I adopted him or her paraventure, I will adopt a child in the near future. I've come to believe that saying such to a child will hurt them in a way and might also create mental health issues for them as they begin to ponder on the issue and how they came to be adopted.

So in a nutshell, like I've stated above, I won't be angry with my parents, nor will I hold grudges against them for not telling me, but for the first time in my life, I'll feel out of place in that family and would begin the quest of looking for my actual parents or asking about them to know what and what led to me being adopted, what happened to my parents, and many more to mention, but regardless of my findings, I'll also still see and regard my current parents and siblings as my actual family, because they're all I've known since inception.


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I think similarly to you, and my reaction would be quite similar.

That's good to know we share same ideology on this.

Yeah that sudden rise of feeling to search for real parents is going to be common among every kid who gets the news of adoption.

It's just a usual instinct that'll delve in due to curiosity.

The big man Vic 😂. This man would be taller than me in real life oo 😂. And yeah there is no doubt you took after dad. Hehe. It’s clear and obvious. God bless our parents.

I'm taller than tola, so it's normal.
Amen, thanks so much, God bless all our parents.

I must ask the fair guy in the picture, guy, are you sure you are not adopted🤷
Do I have a reason to be angry with the people I have known all my life, who have treated me like their own children? I guess the answer is "NO"

Yea it's doesn't make sense to get angry with them, when they've been good to us all our life.

Lols he's adopted, 3 of my siblings are fair in complexion.

😁😁

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It’s even a blessing you have people take you as their child and love you like their other children. I think I would be also be grateful instead of angry because not everyone gets a chance like this

That's just it my dear, there's no point being angry, I'm not better than those at the orphanage and yet, having the privilege to be nultured like I'm a part of this family is heartewarming

You’re right.


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Thanks so much for the support.

I have written about this sometimes ago and it is the same thing as yours. It is normal to feel surprised and the odd one among the others when you found out you were adopted but it wouldn't make any fuss when these parents treated you as one and equal to others without maltreating you whatsoever.

The only thing is to find out the reasons why my biological parents left me for another family, and if they are dead, all good and well. Life moves on.

That's just it, inasmuch as I've been treated equally between those I know as my siblings, then there's no point acting up.

It's just to be grateful and love forward to better days with them despite the revelation.

Playing a parental role in the life of any child is not easy. Why should I get angry with my adoptive parents.. never, I should rather be grateful for not being in orphanage home. I will react just like you if para venture I found out that I was adopted.
I will always commend parents who adopts a child..it's a way of helping the society.

That's just the way to go and the best way to react, is be grateful, though we will be curious to know about how we got adopted and our real parents.

Truth to be told I would never get angry with my immediate parents because there must be a reason for them to be taking care of me instead of my biological parents. And also I would find out the reason why my biological parents left me to be taken care by another parents.

Yes that's just the best way to handle the situation in such a trivia matter.

I sure will be glad to have lived with people I refer to as parents. But on the other hand, they should keep such information as it could lead me to asking a lot of questions.
As much as I would respect and honour my so-called parents for their supports and love all these years, I would need to find my root as the future is just by the corner. Who knows, anything may crop up later demanding the I find out who I really am

Yes that's absolutely correct, I'll absolutely love prefer not to be told, but finding out won't change my opinion about my immediate family, even though it's normal to have questions.

Yeah. I agree with you. The anger should be channeled to the parents that didn't take up their responsibilities. Thank God for adoption. It has saved alot of children from the street.
Thanks for sharing