Hello Hive community!
Success can take time and you can get frustrated for a while with the lack of results.
How do you manage to hang on?
First of all, you have to take into account this whole phase during which you are not going to be mega-motivated because indeed, you have the impression that every effort you make, it does not please many people, and in particular when you compare yourself with people who have been doing this activity before you for a long time, and this in any field.
If you start judo, you're going to feel like you're trying so hard and you're not doing what you're trying to do. And then you have a guy who's been doing it for 5 years, even his hair doesn't move, he doesn't sweat, he has nothing and he does amazing stuff. And then you think to yourself "it's crazy, how can this guy get such beautiful results without any effort, while I'm struggling and I can't do it?"
Of course, the key, what makes the difference? It's that the guy, he encountered exactly the same problems as you and he persevered and it's after a while that he reached this mastery, which you don't see when you look at a guy who already has 5 years of experience and obviously all the sweat, all the failures, all the periods of doubt that he went through and that he had to overcome to be able to reach the level that he has.
You can look at people who have accomplished what you want to accomplish, see the ease they have. But above all, and this is very important, never compare their facade with your backstage because you don't see behind all the difficulties they have experienced, you don't see all the moments of doubt they have experienced and you don't see the difficulties and the moments of doubt they have right now.
Yes, someone who has a lot of experience, he will have much more results than you for the same amount of effort, but that doesn't mean that he considers himself perfect, it doesn't mean that he doesn't want to give up from time to time...
Frankly, it's hard not to compare yourself with others, everyone is always comparing themselves. In my opinion, you just have to compare yourself in a healthy way. You have to have the right mindset about it.
To compare yourself in a healthy way, you tell yourself that what you see is the front and not the backstage. If he got there, it's because he knew how to persevere in moments of doubt, and this must be a fuel for you so that you can also overcome these moments of doubt.
Then, be aware that it's normal to feel unmotivated, and there are plenty of techniques to stay motivated while you learn to get better results for the efforts you make. Because in the end, that's what's really demotivating, all that effort. When you start something, you don't have a good ratio of results to effort.
And the whole key to learning and growing in skill and growing in success is to improve that ratio. Once you understand that, there are many techniques.
One, for example, is to have a clear vision of what you want, to connect to that so that it inspires you, to get into clubs or masterminds or communities of people who have the same goal as you.
It's also interesting to take a training course or to be in a community or both because when you're starting out and you're on your own, you don't necessarily know what are realistic goals for you to achieve.
From time to time you need to celebrate the successes that you achieve along the way, even the small successes you need to celebrate. This will boost your motivation and your ambition.
I also recommend to know how to celebrate the events that can be seen as negative. Because a failure is an important step in your success. Yes, a failure is not clearly constructive, but it's interesting in a way. Celebrating the little bumps in the road sometimes is something that you can really get into a momentum that carries you.
