Fights between siblings are common when they are small, in most cases because of jealousy, either of a toy, a candy, or simply for wanting to be the one who has control in the house, of course they are simple fights without any kind of rancor, in which a few minutes later they are already making passes and they forget that they have fought over something.
En mi casa es muy común ver las peleas entre mis dos hijos, Matthias Andrés y Juan Andrés, en la mayoría de los casos es Juan Andrés quien inicia la pelea porque siempre quiere lo que tiene su hermano o que haga lo mismo que el, pero a pesar de que pelean, se quieren mucho, y siempre están preguntando el uno por el otro, no pueden estar alejados por mucho tiempo, para mi como padre es difícil lidiar con estos conflictos diarios, mas aún es esta etapa ya que Matthias tiene 8 años y Juan apenas 2 años, quien termina llorando al no comprender lo que se le esta explicando, pero en la mayoría de las oportunidades se sale con la suya.
In my house it is very common to see fights between my two sons, Matthias Andres and Juan Andres, in most cases it is Juan Andres who starts the fight because he always wants what his brother has or to do the same as him, but even though they fight, they love each other very much, and they are always asking for each other, for me as a parent it is difficult to deal with these daily conflicts, even more so at this stage since Matthias is 8 years old and Juan is only 2 years old, who ends up crying because he does not understand what is being explained to him, but most of the time he gets his way.
Matthias es un niño muy tranquilo, durante su primeros 6 años de vida se adapto a estar en casa solo con su mama y conmigo, ocasionalmente jugaba con sus primos ya sea en casa de mis hermanas o a que mi cuñado, donde no duraba mucho tiempo sino que al pasar un par de horas quería volver a casa con nosotros, siendo un niño muy apegado a sus padres, tranquilo y obediente; después del nacimiento de Juan Andrés, las cosas cambiaron un poco a medida de que fue creciendo, cuando comenzó a gatear tomaba los juguetes de su hermano mayor y los tiraba por toda la casa, le destruía las figuras de los legos o simplemente se metía en sus juegos, al caminar no le dejaba hacer nada solo para las tareas yo lo distraía mientras mi esposa ayudaba a Matthias con sus deberes, el ritmo de vida al que estaba acostumbrado cambia y es algo que ha tomado muy bien, ya que adora a su hermanito.
Matthias is a very quiet child, during his first 6 years of life he adapted to be at home alone with his mom and me, occasionally he would play with his cousins either at my sisters house or at my brother in law's house, where he did not last long but after a couple of hours he wanted to come back home with us, being a very attached child to his parents, quiet and obedient; After the birth of Juan Andres, things changed a little as he grew up, when he started to crawl he took his older brother's toys and threw them all over the house, he destroyed his legos figures or simply got into his games, when walking I did not let him do anything, only for homework I distracted him while my wife helped Matthias with his homework, the rhythm of life he was used to changed and it is something he has taken very well, since he adores his little brother.
En algunas ocasiones las diferencia de edad, 6 años entre los dos, les ha dificultado a compartir un juego entre ellos, quizás las cosas que le gustan a Juan, a Matthias no, y es ahí donde esas diferencias terminan en peleas entre ellos; Matthias ya tiene otros intereses y Juan no entiende eso, pretende que su hermano haga todo el tiempo lo que el quiere, en algunas oportunidades Matthias lo hace, pero hay días en que no y eso irrita a Juan, llorando sin parar hasta que intervenimos mi esposa o yo, para servir de mediadores sin preferencias por ninguno, para evitar posibles roces en el futuro. En casa todo se les da por igual, al comprar algo para uno siempre se compra para el otro, ambos tienen sus televisores en sus cuartos, pero sin embargo Juan le gusta llamar la atención de su hermano y no dejarlo ver sus programas favoritos, en muchas oportunidades me siento a jugar con mi pequeño para que Matthias pueda disfrutar de sus juegos, porque ambos son niños y debemos respetar sus espacios.
Sometimes the age difference, 6 years between the two, has made it difficult to share a game between them, maybe the things that Juan likes, Matthias doesn't, and that's where those differences end up in fights between them; Matthias already has other interests and Juan does not understand that, he pretends that his brother does all the time what he wants, sometimes Matthias does it, but there are days when he does not and that irritates Juan, crying non-stop until my wife or I intervene, to serve as mediators without preferences for any of them, to avoid possible friction in the future. At home everything is given to them equally, when buying something for one always buys for the other, both have their televisions in their rooms, but nevertheless Juan likes to call the attention of his brother and not let him watch his favorite programs, on many occasions I sit to play with my little one so that Matthias can enjoy his games, because both are children and we must respect their spaces.
Eventualmente pido a Matthias que vaya hasta la bodega cerca de la casa a comprar algo, y Juan Andrés sale corriendo, para ir el también, queda a solo 5 casas y le permito que vaya, me quedo sentado en la puerta al pendiente de ambos, ya el se siente grande y quiere estar a la par de su hermano; los días sábados va un amigo de Matthias a buscarlo para jugar en el parque frente a mi casa, ya Juan sabe y al ver que su hermano se viste también pide que le cambiemos la ropa para ir a jugar jajajaja.
Eventually I ask Matthias to go to the bodega near the house to buy something, and Juan Andrés runs out to go too, it is only 5 houses away and I allow him to go, I stay sitting at the door watching both of them, he already feels big and wants to be next to his brother; on Saturdays a friend of Matthias goes to pick him up to play in the park in front of my house, Juan already knows and when he sees that his brother is dressed he also asks to change his clothes to go play hahahahaha.
Hay momentos del día en los que se llevan muy bien, especialmente a la hora de comer y de dormir, ambos tienen sus sillas para comer, se sientan juntos y se les da la comida al mismo tiempo; es muy gracioso porque Juan Andrés es el que exige agua y jugo para los dos, y en otros casos si hay visita pide para todos los que estén sentados en la mesa, e incluso llora cuando por alguna casualidad Matthias no quiere comer, tiene que estar con el jajajaja. A la hora de dormir, ambos rezan, piden la bendición y Juan por ser el mas pequeño le acostumbramos a pedir la bendición a su hermano mayor, ambos se abrazan, se acobijan juntos, se dan un beso y se dan las buenas noches, a dormir hasta el otro día.
There are times of the day when they get along very well, especially at mealtime and bedtime, both have their chairs to eat, they sit together and are given the food at the same time; it is very funny because Juan Andrés is the one who demands water and juice for both, and in other cases if there is a visitor he asks for everyone sitting at the table, and even cries when by some chance Matthias does not want to eat, he has to be with him hahahahaha. At bedtime, both pray, ask for the blessing and Juan being the youngest, we are used to ask the blessing to his older brother, both hug, cuddle together, kiss each other and say goodnight, to sleep until the next day.
Se que esto lo mas normal y es algo pasajero, pienso que son etapas que hay que quemar como hermanos, aunque les confieso que en oportunidades me vuelven loco jajaja; solo espero que cuando sean adultos no hayan diferencias entre ellos, como padres tenemos la obligación de enseñarles a los hermanos que entre ellos debe haber amor, respeto, tolerancia, confianza, amistad y comunicación, ya que dichos valores son necesarios para la buena convivencia, eso es lo que espero sembrar en mis pequeños para que se ayuden mutuamente en todo momento.
I know that this is the most normal thing and it is something temporary, I think they are stages to burn as siblings, although I confess that sometimes they drive me crazy hahaha; I just hope that when they are adults there are no differences between them, as parents we have the obligation to teach siblings that between them there must be love, respect, tolerance, trust, friendship and communication, since these values are necessary for good coexistence, that is what I hope to sow in my children so that they help each other at all times.
Lo mejor del mundo es tener un hermano en quien confiar, yo doy gracias a Dios por haberme regalado 9 hermanos, que cada uno con sus diferencias, cuando nos necesitamos estamos presentes para apoyarnos; con esto se despide su amigo el Drhueso hasta una nueva oportunidad.
The best thing in the world is to have a brother to trust, I thank God for having given me 9 brothers, each with their differences, when we need each other we are there to support each other; with this your friend Drhueso says goodbye until another opportunity.
Las imágenes son de mi propiedad, fueron tomadas con mi teléfono celular Tecno Spark 6 / The images are my property, they were taken with my Tecno Spark 6 cell phone.
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