Hello friends
Greetings to all my readers and the hive Hive family, thanks so much to @motherhood community for giving me the platform to learn and as well improve in my responsibility as a father, greetings to all who were able to go through my #Dadlife experience, in the month of July.
The role of fatherhood in my understanding has always been an important and vital element in the growth of generations before now and after, this is the truth but the approach is always changing with time and season, even in the modern world.
Many today have forgotten the true definition and concept of fatherhood, in most cases many have no idae of who a dad is.
The art of fatherhood, as they say is evolving, it is not the same in all society, it changes as culture and tradition of family changes.
I will be sharing a few positive fatherhood and parenting tips, this will be very practical on how dads can give assistance to their kids on the area of building capacity and self-esteem, this will in no small way develop effective engagement with kids, thereby becoming a good, loving and award winning father, to your kids.
It is true that fatherhood has change from what it use to be, as a father today you can bot rely on what your experience of fatherhood as at when you were growing up, the today father-daughter or father-son relationship is quiet different from what it was in our time, the truth is that time has change and you can not bring it back, the recent parenting approach, in a way has given father, several ways to engage their response to the kids as parent or fathers, and like i said, if you want to rely on your childhood experience as a template for a fatherhood guide, it will not work out, because as time changes, so is the approaches, in fact i will say that what worked 15 years ago, for my dad, will not work perfectly today, if i can recall, that my dad can not repeat a word twice on the same issue, but now, the case is different, it is not a bad thing but, it is because of the changes and the new faces of life available in the modern world.
If you effectively engage this few tips, you will know how to effectively engage kids, you will become supportive and as well a loving father.
- Spend Time With your Kids:
The time you spend with your kids, practically reveals to them your value system and tell them what is important to the father. For me am privilege to have three kids under my fatherhood control, so for each of them, i do have a day off in a week, to take the child to any place of his/her choice, to spend some good hours with any of them per week, this time out with daddy is the time to ask any question about any thing in life, academic church and family, you will be surprise and amazed at the questions the kids will ask, you may be thinking that you will always have time with them but it will shock you how fast kids grow this days, please maximize the days as you see it.
- Be Your child best friend and Role model:
Practically i have in my experience seen that parents are the role models to their kids and default should be their best friends, The more your kid spend time with you, the more the realize and discover who they are, and how better they can be through you, let them learn how to love, humility, honesty and responsibility by seeing you practically demonstrate them daily. what they see you do, from birth is what the believe to be the truth that be.
- Discipline your kids with love and be positive:
Discipline abound in the heart of every child, and it is discipline that will guide and bring correction, like i said before, in out time it was punishment but now you can not do that, but you must do it with love, you must bring their consciousness, the consequence of every action they take per time. as a fathers if you discipline your kids in a calm and loving manner, it will speak of love and value for them, remember that what ever happens to them, affects everyone around them.
- Earn the right to be heard:
As fathers, this is very important, you have to be your child's confidant, let your children feel free to engage a conversation with you without fear of what you as the father will do, but first you as the father should start up a conversations of important topics, like sex and other relative issues so as to help them in difficult subjects, as the grow up. for this to be effective, you will need to give them listening ear and value their opinions.
- Be your children's first teacher:
It is a privilege to have them under our care, we need to be good fathers to them and as well very Good teachers, always be there to encourage and guide them, some times it will not be the best option but you guide them by your experience, tell them that the are the best , permit them to make their choice only guide them through.
- Eat together as a family:
Bonding is a very important aspect of a healthy Family, this is possible through family meals, you can not explain the joy and excitement the kids have on that round table. it helps to reveals to kids the likes and the dis-like of the fathers with regards to food. An important part of healthy family life is bonding through family meals. It gives kids the chance to talk about about the basic challenge of the families and what should be done.
The responsibility of fatherhood has been entrusted into our hands to care and be responsible to another, i tell you friends, it is amazingly rewarding if carefully done. it is amazing to daily see your child grow to becoming the great persons you had always wanted them to be,
I may not know how to convince you but i hopefully, entrust the few parenting tips to you, i promise that it will provide a guide to dads, becoming an award winning fathers.
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