Hola comunidad querida, les deseo un excelente dΓaπ». || Hello dear community, I wish you an excellent dayπ».
I think everyone in this community @motherhood are parents so you can understand a bit my venting (so to speak) in this post, I am a mother of three boys and the oldest of them turned 12 a few months ago and although for some time now you can notice his entrance to adolescence this year has been felt more and sometimes it drives me crazyπ€£.
Mi niΓ±o estΓ‘ creciendo π± || My child is growing upπ±
En lΓneas generales considero que es un buen niΓ±o, pero hay dΓas que se esmera y pone todo su empeΓ±o para ser un dolor de cabezaπ€£.
A veces pienso en mi adolescencia y me pregunto si mi papΓ‘ me veΓa de esa forma a esa edad, aunque siempre fuΓ muy tranquila y obediente, nunca sufrΓ de ese mal comΓΊn que tiene mi hijo de decir "yo ya lo sΓ©".
AdemΓ‘s siempre estΓ‘ cansado jajaja aunque se estΓ© levantando, al principio pensΓ© que podΓa ser falta de vitaminas o que tenΓa algo, pero despuΓ©s de una visita de rutina al mΓ©dico y verificar que todo estaba biΓ©n, entendΓ que es una etapa que estΓ‘ viviendo o eso creo, pero es solo cuando le conviene, porque los dΓas que va a sus clases de ajedrez madruga sin quejarse, aunque eso es bueno porque es responsable, pero si debe hacerlo por tareas o algΓΊn otro motivo, sacarlo de la cama es todo un proceso hasta que se agota mi paciencia y lo despierto bruscamente, es decir subo el tono de mi voz para llamarlo.
Generally speaking I consider him to be a good kid, but there are days when he goes all out and puts his all into being a pain in the assπ€£.
Sometimes I think back to my adolescence and wonder if my dad saw me that way at that age, even though I was always very quiet and obedient, I never suffered from that common malady that my son has of saying "I already know".
Also he is always tired hahaha although he is getting up, at first I thought it could be lack of vitamins or that he had something, but after a routine visit to the doctor and verify that everything was fine, I understood that it is a stage that he is living or so I think, but it is only when it suits him, because the days he goes to his chess classes he gets up early without complaining, although that is good because he is responsible, but if he has to do it for homework or some other reason, getting him out of bed is a whole process until my patience runs out and I wake him up abruptly, that is to say I raise the tone of my voice to call him.
Otro episodio por el que estΓ‘ pasando es que cambia rΓ‘pido de intereses y creo que es normal porque estΓ‘ tratando de descubrir cuΓ‘les son sus fortalezas ha incursionado en estas actividades: origami, armar diferentes tipos de cubos de rubik, ajedrez y skate, debo aceptar que es muy bueno en las tres primeras actividades, incluso ha participado en competencias escolares ganando el primer lugar armando el cubo de rubik y de segundo lugar en un torneo de ajedrez, lo que permitiΓ³ que avanzara a los intercolegiales.
Como dije anteriormente es un buen niΓ±o, que estΓ‘ enfrentΓ‘ndose a una etapa de la vida difΓcil donde quiere hacer muchas mΓ‘s cosas, quizΓ‘s ser mΓ‘s libre, pero siento que aΓΊn no es momento como para dejarlo salir solo con sus amigos (cosa que Γ©l ya quiere hacer) asΓ que le permito la visita de un amigo, una vez cada 15 dΓas para que compartan en casa bajo mi supervisiΓ³n, les doy su espacio para que jueguen y conversen pero aΓΊn no estoy lista para que empiece a despegarse de mi.
Another episode he is going through is that he changes his interests quickly and I think it is normal because he is trying to discover what his strengths are, he has ventured into these activities: origami, building different types of rubik's cubes, chess and skateboarding, I must accept that he is very good at the first three activities, he has even participated in school competitions winning first place in building the rubik's cube and second place in a chess tournament, which allowed him to advance to the inter-schools.
As I said before he is a good boy, who is facing a difficult stage of life where he wants to do many more things, maybe be more free, but I feel it is not yet time to let him go out alone with his friends (which he already wants to do) so I allow a friend to visit him, once every 15 days to share at home under my supervision, I give them their space to play and talk but I am not yet ready for him to start detaching from me.
No se, si estoy actuando correctamente pero siento que es lo que debo hacer por ahora, ademΓ‘s de hablar mucho con Γ©l, tratar de no juzgarlo cuando se equivoca para que confie en mi cuando tenga algΓΊn problema o sienta que quiere hablar con alguien, es un poco dificil entenderlo a veces porque tiende a llenarse de rabia con facilidad y eso me recuerda que soy igual y que me cuesta expresarme cuando me siento asi.
Bueno cada dΓa es una aventura nueva con Γ©l, estoy aprendiendo a lidiar con sus cambios de humor sin permitir que sobrepasen los lΓmites hacia la falta de respeto, pero tratando de entenderlo y agarrando fuerzas porque serΓ‘ una temporada larga y difΓcil para mi jajajaja, porque es apenas el primero de los tres, asΓ que el camino que me espera es largo aΓΊn π€£.
I don't know, if I am acting correctly but I feel that is what I should do for now, besides talking to him a lot, try not to judge him when he is wrong so he trusts me when he has a problem or feels he wants to talk to someone, it is a little difficult to understand him sometimes because he tends to get angry easily and that reminds me that I am the same and that it is hard for me to express myself when I feel that way.
Well every day is a new adventure with him, I'm learning to deal with his mood swings without letting them go over the limits towards disrespect, but trying to understand him and grabbing strength because it will be a long and hard season for me hahahaha, because he is just the first of the three, so the road ahead of me is still long π€£.
SΓ algΓΊn papito de aqui me quiere dar un consejo, tips Γ‘nimos los recibo con gratitud.β£οΈ || If any daddy here wants to give me some advice, tips and encouragement, I welcome them with gratitude.β£οΈ
