A Symbiotic World: Why You Should Work Towards Being Effortlessly Valuable

josediccus in #hive-167922 • 3 years ago

Realizing The Essence To Value

As a young man I grew up understanding the essence of symbiotic relationships and how the individual values of different people can be merged to form a formidable wealth of value. The younger version of me understood that one's abilities and talents cannot take them far enough and this was because a person cannot completely embody all the values that will essentially take them to the lengths of accomplishments they desire in life.

I grew up allowing people to tap from my unique abilities while giving me the essential ingredients to utilize my essence which in turns serves them a purpose but exposes me to the resources at their disposal. One of the reasons I worked on myself to ooze of some certain qualities was because I wanted to attract people who can see value in me.

Why Is this?

I'll explain this further. I grew up needy, a lot of people saw limit to how far I could get to in life and this was due to major health issues in my life, so because the people around me felt I'd be dependent on them for financial means, they found it hard to imagine I could ooze and value that could be monetarily beneficial to another person.

Likewise, I needed multiple loans to get an education because the people who were primarily available felt I could die due to those health challenges without returning their money, I could graduate and never get a job to repay, or I could even get a job and be doing fine but never serve any financial purpose to them.

I grew up with business oriented people/uncles/relatives who never invested in anything that wasn't profitable, while this may sound terrible on the surface, it's actually one of those characteristics to wealthy people that keeps them wealthy and even wealthier. To be rich isn't easy, rich people are always scared of being returning to their ground zero and this is probably why some of them are strict with their means.

A Predominant Unfairness?

The world is harsh, most people are extrinsically motivated to behave in ways that are unfair and this is because people are looking to form relationships that are beneficial. I worked a certain job and while I was shitty at doing my main duties, my boss retained me because I was good at marketing.

I had good marketing ideas that drove his business to thrive, but he knew I was terrible on the job, but then he kept on increasing my pay because other people could easily do my job but couldn't drive the traffic he needed to sell his product. It was always a "win-win". I hated the man (my boss) he loved money dearly, he was knowingly ignorant to the "off-work" problems of his employees, he was not concerned about their quality of life.

For him if you weren't happy you should leave the job. The unemployment in the economy drives job owners to be extremely tasking of their workers. Their bloodlust to money made them care "less" about their workers, since the labor market was filled with unemployed people seeking to take shitty conditions just to earn money.

Why Stay In Such A Business Relationship?

While I hated the man, I had to work for him, I had to create an illusion that I was more valuable than I seemed because I knew I was terrible on the job. So we had contrasting reasons to remain in a business relationship. While this felt cringy and queer it's a harsh world and one has to live with it. In reality, I'm not saying people should remain in business relationships that are toxic. Every Nigerian who has worked 9 to 5 have experienced toxic business relationships and because they needed the money, they had to cope until they could not cope again. This was why I stopped 9 to 5. Toxic environment takes away the best people could offer.

I understood this and that's why overtime I tend to form relationships with great minds, so we can get to merge the value we represent to create a idea that could generate returns, while working in the best of business environment. I'm always critical of people who don't add any value, but take and take. This isn't because what they do is all bad, it's because I know I'm inadequate and should probably establish relationships that should make up for these inadequacies.

Needless to say

.......value births value, you probably won't attract people who have value to give if you yourself are not valuable or refuses to give out value. This isn't greed it's how the world works. Everyone is inadequate, but offers substantial value in unique ways, but the way we develop our unique abilities becomes a beacon to attract the value you represent.

In reality having money is quite different from being valuable. You might be wealthy, but your wealth is a charade and never impacting. One thing is, even if you feel less valuable, creating the illusion that you are by making attempts also endears people to you. One of the best non-monetary value is loyalty. Because it's rare, it makes it invaluable.

While I do not hold any grudges on my billionaire uncles for not seeing any prospective value that could yield them returns if they invested in me, the realization that that's how the world works made me comprehend my inadequacies and worked hard to be better.