Have you ever met some kinds of people which the only time you get to hear from them is when they need something from you? The only time you ever exist in this world is when they are in need. there are people like that, and they don't know how bad this hurts a relationship.
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I have quite some acquaintances in which the only reason they contact me is when they are in need and after that, I don't seem to exist again. I am quite the kind of guy who would help anybody so far I am capable and it doesn't take anything away from me.
One thing I enjoy about myself is that I check to see if my actions conform to the norms and moral standards I have established for myself. I think everyone should do this. About three months ago, I wrote an article on ethics to follow when lending money to people called COMMON MISTAKES PEOPLE MAKE WHEN THEY BORROW AND GIVE LOANS || MY PAINFUL STORY
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There's this lady friend of mine who, whenever she needs money, texts me and says she wants to borrow this amount, which I give her. The problem is that she uses the term "borrow," but according to my borrowing ethics, I only borrow what I can give out without asking for it back. This is due to the fact that when you borrow money or an object, there is a great likelihood that the person will not return it.
So it is with this lady, and the strange thing is that we don't talk, call, chat, or do business with each other, and then when she needs money again, she comes to me without returning the last money she borrowed.
I guess this is probably your reaction right now 😅
Despite the fact that, per my guidelines, I don't often lend someone money twice if they don't pay back the first, I continued to give her money because it wasn't a sizable sum in total. When someone makes it apparent to me that they need money and want me to dash them, I always find it to be pleasant. By doing so, I would be able to tell if the individual was being honest when they said they wouldn't be able to return it rather than just using the word "loan" to get what you want and then not return it.
But in her situation, I continued to provide until I finally told her to join Hive. Since I was still enrolled in the OCD onboarding program at the time, she would have received support if she had adhered to the requirements and pasted relevant content. She paints, bakes cakes, and makes molds, and this specific woman is a talented artist. She is brimming with skills, which led me to believe Hive would be a fantastic fit for her.
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I had to make it clear to her what Hive is about, tell her this is where I get the money I am giving her and if she really needs a medium where she can make some money from the talent she has, Hive is the best place for her.
I attempted to follow up with the registration and explanation. In the meantime, this was before I began the Hive Bootcamp Program with my team. However, it appears that she was not interested in joining Hive after creating her account, and there is another rule I follow when attempting to introduce someone to Hive or something similar, and that is: Never force someone to do something they don't want to do, or they will push back.
So I gave her a break and gave her time since I was confident she would return when she next needed money from me, and she did. She messaged me yesterday to ask me to lend her money. She didn't send the message right away, but she was trying to start a conversation with us before ending on a high note.
I knew that was the main reason for her message from the first text she sent. I was just waiting for her to hit the right note. Then she asked me to lend her $10, and I was like 👇
Are you kidding me?
I had to tell her the truth: "You haven't paid back all the money you have been borrowing in the past." And the next thing she said was that she believed I had given her the cash. I said, "You use the word "borrow" when asking for money, and you assume I gave it to you."
She claimed that because I never ask her about the money when I give it to her or mention it in any other way, it is logical to assume that I provided it to her freely. This claim sounded absurdly hilarious!
You should be having a laugh now🤣😂
She was startled that I continued lending her things without asking for them back. I'm not sure if this statement is good or negative. I don't know if she is accustomed to people pursuing her when they want their money back, but the truth is, that borrowing money from someone and expecting them to chase you relentlessly until you pay it back is wrong.
I would never act in such a way. For this reason, I will never lend money that I cannot afford to lose. No matter how much I trust my friend, if I have 5 million and he asks for 3 million tomorrow for a business, I won't give it to him because I can't afford to lose it. Trust doesn't change the possibility of a situation or condition happening. These are the reasons why I uphold the ideals and ethics I have established to improve my life.
Now, I think it's appropriate to remind her of Hive and what it can do for her, but I wouldn't force her to join; instead, I would merely offer advice in order to prevent her from joining Hive and becoming disinterested in it.
There are three moral lessons in this article, The first is:
The Second is:
The Third is:
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Starstrings01 AKA Giftedhands is a Hive lover, a Nigeria musician (Guitarist), and also a student who studies Mechatronics Engineering at the Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta.
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