There was a time I lied about my age to a girl I met online, and honestly, it’s something I regret. It happened early last year. I came across her posts, and from what I saw, I just assumed she was older than me. To impress her, I told her I was 21, even though I was just 20 at the time. I thought adding a year to my age would make me appear more mature or fit into whatever box I imagined she had for someone she’d be interested in. But, funny enough, it turned out she was still a teenager. I was shocked and didn't even know what to say anymore. It made me question why I felt the need to lie in the first place. Was her approval really worth compromising my honesty? The answer, I realized, was no.
From that moment, I decided never to lie to impress or influence anyone again. It doesn’t matter who they are or what the situation is—if I can’t win someone over by being myself, then they’re not the right person to have in my life. Lying might actually give you a temporary advantage, but it often leads to regret and complicates things down the line.
The truth is, I have come across people who prefer to hide their age for one reason or another. Some do it because they feel like they should’ve achieved more by a certain age. Others might lie because they feel insecure or want to avoid judgment. Honestly, I understand where they’re coming from. Society can be harsh, and there’s always pressure to meet certain expectations at specific milestones. But personally, I don’t see the point in hiding or lying about my age. It doesn’t change anything about who I am or what I’ve experienced.
For instance, I’m the oldest among all the guys in my room. I actually told them my real age and sometimes, during arguments or banter, they make jokes or comments about my age. While I laugh it off most of the time, I won’t lie and say it never gets to me. But then I’ve learned to not take it to heart. Sometimes it's just a playful talk and sometimes they mean but bring it up as a joke but then I know my worth isn’t tied to the number of years I’ve lived.
More recently, I met another girl during the holidays. When I told her my age, she said she could already guess it from my face and then mentioned that I was too old for her. It touched me a bit, I won’t lie. But then i just had to let her be. I wouldn’t reduce my age just to make someone like me or want to be with me. That kind of relationship would feel fake and forced.
At the end of the day, I believe in staying true to myself and If being sincere about my age means losing someone’s approval, so be it. I would rather have meaningful relationships built on trust and authenticity than fake connections based on lies. So no, I wouldn’t lie about my age to impress or influence anyone—that is just not who I am anymore
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