Hello, Hivers! Hope we're having a nice weekend, and here is my opinion about the first topic that says, "Your best friend's partner (who you find very attractive begins to flirt with you, then suggests a one-night stand, your friend will never find out, are you doing it or not".
This prompt resonates so well with me because I had a similar experience in the past with a friend's boyfriend.
It happened in my penultimate year with my best friend's boyfriend, Drake. He has always been nice to me and I always take it as a gesture, even though we were all friends, I have learned to maintain a boundary because of the relationship he was having with my best friend.
Sometimes, he will wink at me, and give me a dashing and gleaming smile that speaks volumes. Regardless of all his advances and flirts, I took it all in and respected him so much, especially because he was way older than me.
On one of the occasions when it was so obvious, I had gone to visit my friend during the weekend and she had excused herself from the room.
He came closer to me, held my hands, and told me he liked me and he wouldn't mind having me. I hated his guts and audacity instantly.
"You are Sharon's boyfriend for crying out loud, why do you have no sense of intentionality for my friend," I had said and after that time, I slowly cut ties with him and made our relationship very casual
So my opinion on "Doing it or not" is No. Why? My relationship with my friend matters to me more than a fleeting moment that will pass and become memories later. And my friend's feelings are of top priority to me. How would she feel if she eventually finds out? Hope my actions won't cost me our friendship. Those questions were what was flying through my head when I experienced a similar experience.
I am very high on trust in friendship, so I would not want to do something I would regret later. I would not want to break long-lasting years of friendship just because of one night of pleasure
So even if my friend's boyfriend is attractive and alluring, my relationship with him will be platonic to the core and if he is aspiring for something more, I will try to withdraw gradually.