Abuse comes in different forms; it could be physical,verbal or sexual.The victims are mostly women. I also got to understand that so many people stay in an abusive relationship for reasons like, if they walk away they won't find someone else, some feel they can still change their partner to a better person, some who are married prefer to stay because marriage is for better or worse, they also feel if they work out of the marriage they won't be able to take care of their kids, and some stay because of wealth.
And here is my advice to these people:To walk away for the sake of their lives is better than staying and hoping for change. No matter what, you can never be safe with an abusive person. A saying goes that when there is life, there is hope. If you die as a result of abuse, life still goes on, and you will be replaced in people's lives, including your partner's, so don't trade your life for such a person. An abusive relationship can never get better; it would only get worse as the days count. You can never change an abusive person; what is not working is not working. The only personality that can change a person is the Holy Spirit not you.So don't wait.
Stop thinking that you are the problem because you are not. And believe me, they will still behave that way towards someone else. It all starts with their sense of entitlement—the feeling to manipulate and control you to believe that you are the reason for their actions.
And to some mothers who are married to abusive husbands. I encourage divorce. So many people oppose this, but we should always remember that domestic violence has led to the death of so many people. I have seen and heard many women die as a result of assault from their spouses, leaving their kids motherless, all in the name of what people will say when they divorce their husbands. None of these people will take good care of your kids the way you would. It is better to leave the marriage alive and watch your kids grow than die in the hands of an abusive husband, all in the name of marriage. This is my response to the weekend engagement #214.
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