Advise is great, suggestions are appreciated, listen to them, but, you must distinguish between the good advice and the bad. The advice that will truly aid you, and the advice that goes against your course of action and ethos. Not all advice, is good advice. Chances are, the advice that has worked for someone else, may not work for you. Most of these people have only talked the talk, but have never walked the walk. Most of it is just unearned consciousness. And as David Deida said, "Unearned consciousness is valueless".
Everyone has suggestions these days, and each person thinks that their suggested method is best of all."Do this to be successful, do this to make more money, utilize this exercise to lose weight, try this method for efficiency, and use these lines to win over a woman's heart".
Success is subjective. Someone out there feels content, with what they already have, family, health, trust, and safety, and for them, that is true success. For someone else, success is a couple of million dollars and a yacht. A person may make a lot of money, but their professional life could be depressing. Whereas another person could be making much less but could be "lucky" enough to be working in a niche and sector they're passionate about. Exercises do help, and people require direction at first, but what if it's not the exercise that's the problem? But instead, it's the diet and lifestyle? Methods that aid in efficiency and focus could be a cup of coffee for some, and for others, it could be a quiet and peaceful room. And tips to win over a woman's heart? Well, I can tell you that sweet talk and mind games alone can never be the key to a woman's heart. Because with women and their beauty, comes complexity. Men are much simpler beings. So, don't lose sleep, and invest all that time in trying to figure out how to woo a lady. Instead, focus on self-improvement, and find your purpose. If you become someone of value, and if you're busy living life, the woman of your dreams will come, and she'll love you for who you are; not for your expertise in flirting.
Life is about self-discovery. To delve into vast matters, utilize our strengths, and strengthen our weaknesses. If you live life listening to everyone and their suggestions, then you're setting yourself up for failure.
"If you want to make the wrong decision, ask everyone." — Naval Ravikant
Whom you choose to follow, the way you live your life, all of it falls under the branch of self-discovery.
I do believe that a "guru" or mentor can help in ways that are beyond price. To follow in someone's footsteps, having the chance to directly work with those who are living the life you want, are doing better than you, or are at least wiser than you; it's the opportunity of a lifetime. If you act wisely from there on and learn, by being beside them and learning from them, then you will save a lot of time. You conversate and learn from their past mistakes, you walk the walk with them and learn from their present successes and failures, and you develop the quality to set yourself up for future success.
So, choose your heroes wisely, and remember, if you ever meet your hero, be ready to savor a bit of disappointment. Because even our heroes have flaws, probably more than we have; we can't forget, that they are human too.
I don't have a hero. I do have people I look up to, people I learn from; real people. It could be my neighbor, a random stranger on social media, family, or a friend. I believe in self-discovery.
Yet, if I had to answer the question of the best advice and the worst. Then I'd have to say that the best advice I got was to start reading books. And you know who gave me that advice? A drug-addicted friend, who's almost a decade older than me. Back then he had quite a serious drug addiction, for which he had lost many precious years. He relapsed countless times, but he never gave up. And now, he's doing a lot better than he used to back then. So, you never know who's gonna give you the best advice of your life. You just learn to distinguish between what is compatible for you, and what is not; if it adds joy to your life and day, or not.
And the worst advice? It wasn't really any advice, but more of a choice. A choice that I once made to please everyone and to listen to everyone. The yes-man!
To think that they know better than me. Just because they make more money than me, just because they're older than me. Whether it be relatives telling me that I'm setting myself up for failure, or my parents telling me to study or pursue a profession in a sector that is booming, even though I didn't understand a thing about it. Or teachers telling me that I'm a piece of shit and will never amount to anything in life. Sadly enough, a part of me truly believed what their mouths could spew; until it drained every little speck of self-worth that was present inside of me.
If it was not for my mother, and the complete strangers I got to know during my early 20s, I don't what I'd be doing right now. A handful of people who have truly added the most value to my life, and added so much flare; I can't even put it into words. However, I'm glad that I learned my lesson the hard way, I now appreciate the words wrapped in pessimism that was thrown at me, all during my teenage years. Because now I have an edge. I have the ability to recognize what's right and wrong, to side with the truth. To work on things that are valuable to me. Because life is too short to be living according to someone else's orders.
I'm still on the path of self-improvement and self-discovery, the path toward making my dreams come true, with my own methods, at my own pace, and I don't plan on stopping any time soon.
