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"The crypto project will do well.”
Chinedu said through gritted teeth.
“I don't think so,” I voiced my disagreement so strongly. “It has a lot of red flags.”
Chinedu's eyebrows furrowed as he focused a gaze on my face.
“Like what?”
I seemed to hesitate.
“Well…the way they communicate with the community and the purchases they do on their platform plus the way they keep postponing the TGE smells of lack of transparency. It shows they are not serious about community members benefitting from the project.”
“When it comes to fundamental research, the tokenomics of a coin matter the most. The total supply, the amount to be given to the community…”
“I know somewhat about tokenomics,” I cut chinedu off abruptly. “But aside that I watch out for red flags such as I have mentioned.”
The atmosphere was getting heated and I was feeling uncomfortable. We went on and on for minutes until the argument ended.
I have always been known for getting into arguments. It always started with an innocent conversation and then go off into something different and I used to regret it afterwards.
I made a decision at one point that not everything was worth arguing about. I learnt to exercise great self-restraint.
“Not eating certain foods because of how they look or taste is a weak point of some sort.”
One of my friends said to me one time.
“How?”
“Because if somebody brought same food to you and you didn't know what it was you'd eat it still.”
“Well I choose not to see it like that.”
I replied, deeply puzzled."
“Well that's what it is.”
I scratched my beard and said nothing. The conversation dropped. I was learning to drop conversations that might lead to an improper argument. A clean sweep was the intention though it would be a very hard thing to do.
It isn't that I'm incapable of holding a civilized conversation. Infact, I do a lot of times. For example there was a conversation I had with two of my friends, Israel and Onyeka, one dark and windy night from the balcony of a two storey building. And after the conversation they were thanking me generously for how enlightening it was.
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“This conversation we've just had,” remarked Isreal, “Is better than binge-watching movies.”
"Indeed."
Onyeka agreed
What I was worried about was my tendency to veer off into arguing heatedly during certain conversations. Especially if at a certain point during the conversation, someone disagreed with something I know very well to be true and in a discourteous manner. I have been trying to achieve a clean sweep, a complete change in this area.
There are two things I've learnt that can turn a conversation into an unpleasant thing. One, being uncivil. Belittling the opinions of others as if they don't matter. And two, arguing just to win and not to learn. These two I vigorously avoid.
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For years I've kept to these two rules though I will not say a clean sweep or complete change has been achieved but I know I will achieve it someday. There are still times I get into arguments but these moments become less frequent with the passage of time. Surely a clean sweep is on the horizon...
