Essence

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A friend of mine told me that everyone in the world had an essence.
One that was uniquely incorporated into them. It could be formed from a number of things, the body spray they wore or the places they've been or just simply their body chemistry.
All these combined to give them a unique scent, owned by them and only them.

I didn't believe it, people smelt the way they did because of what they wore.
If two people happened to use the same brand of perfume, they would smell the same way.
She argued that she could tell who was who by them just simply passing her by without even looking as long as she had been close long enough to get their essence incorporated into her senses.
Still I didn't believe her,not until my last year in secondary school.

The first time I saw Emem was when we both came to write an entrance exam into the same secondary school, but it was only a brief glance and the only reason I paid any attention to her was because she was there with two of her sisters and the invigilator made it known.

We both got admitted. My first precise memory of her was me walking into class.
She was sitting there already kitted up in her school uniform.
I thought, didn't we take the entrance exam the same day?
How come she had a uniform already and I didn't?

Not surprisingly, we were the only new students in SS1 Science and I felt even more left out because I was the only one putting on home clothes. She was lucky, she could easily blend in with the rest of them.
As the only new students, we were placed together.

I didn't say a single word to her. I wasn't much of a talker back then. Coincidentally I found out her name was Emem. We were namesakes, you see, my middle name is Emem.
Months went by and I slowly started to feel like a part of my classmates.

I liked to surround myself with smart people, people that understood my language but there was a reason I wanted to be around Emem. Her scent.

People say babies have a particular kind of scent, a homely smell that makes you want to just sniff them or carry them all the time.
Emem had a particular scent. I used to tease her and tell her she needed to tell me how to make myself smell like her so I could be sniffing myself all day long.
She would laugh and say it was her sister's perfume she used.

We didn't exactly like the same things and we didn't flow the same way. For example, I picked up and understood a math problem in a few minutes and it took her a little longer than that.
Yet we stuck because it was us from day one.

In SS3, we planned out our second term, we were going to move into the hostel together. I was never so lucky to have a sister, so she become one even though she already had two.
Although I never really talked to them because everyone liked claiming seniority back then.

On a particular Monday, I arrived late to school, my bus was always late. Emem's head lay on the table.
I walked up to her and asked her what was wrong, she waved her hand and said she was just feeling feverish and she would be fine in no time.
That day she didn't smell like the girl I wanted to to sniff all day but I guess I could understand. She said she had been throwing up a lot.

We were in the middle of a class when she rushed out to throw up. Her parents had to be called to take her to the hospital.
The next day I arrived late yet again. All the students were already gathered for assembly so I joined the line.

Something was wrong, I looked at my classmates.
Most of the girl's eyes were red. What happened?
Then my Principal announced it, "We lost one of us yesterday".
I just knew.
I didn't even know when the tears started.
That was my first experience losing someone so close to me.
Emem never made it to the hospital. We never got to move into the hostel together.

We didn't have a single class that day. Everyone simply sat in their seats quietly.
Weeks went by. Most of us stopped having breakdowns during classes.
I passed her sister on my way to submit my assignment a few months later and her scent hit me. At that moment I understood.

They might have shared the same body spray but Emem was different. She simply smelt like herself and I knew it was gone forever. Her essence was gone.

I try not to think about it. No matter how long it has been, it still hurts.
I hope just like I did six years ago that she is in a better place where nothing hurts anymore.

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Such a sad tale. However, your friend bestowed her unique gift on you; you’ve learned to appreciate the subtle differences in body scent because of her. She would be proud of the tribute you’ve written in her name.

Thank you @theinkwell

Huh!!! Such a beautifully told sad story. It appears that we tend to aspects of life differently and the pain we feel is not in any way attached to our resume in some parlance.

Well scripted.

Thank you🥺🥺
It felt good to just write about it❤️

Losing someone close to you can be so heartbreaking. The thought of not seeing them again is too much to bear.

What a beautiful yet sad story. I believe the little memories you shared together will remain in your heart.

They forever will🌺❤️.

That's definitely my worst fear. Having someone gone forever. Not able to see them, laugh with them or simply just hug them ever again.

A very touching story, losing a friend is very sad. And yes I agree with what you say, each person has a particular smell, regardless of the perfume you apply your scent will be different.
Greetings @dianelson 😊

I'm happy you've confirmed it.

Greetings @popurri

Thanks for my much for reading ❤️🌺

That seems to have been a sudden loss. For some reason it hurts more when we are not expecting it. I think Emem was write about the unique scent each person carries and it seems that part of her rubbed off on you.

!LUV

It certainly did.

For some reason it hurts more when we are not expecting it

It really did and going to school that day, it was the last thing I expected to hear.
Everything got better with time. Thank you❤️❤️

Glad the good essence rubbed off on you !LUV

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This is a painfully sweet story. The truth about having our own custom scents is something I still try to wrap my head around because, that's just beautiful. Your friend, I'm so sorry you lost her. But I do hope she's resting now, wherever she is.

The truth about having our own custom scents is something I still try to wrap my head around because, that's just beautiful.

It was hard for me to believe too. When I started believing it, I realized it was true.
I sniffed myself several times. It's something I still do up till now and it's true because I actually smell one specific way.
So does my mother 😂😂

Thanks for reading ❤️

I loved the read!

Thank you❤️❤️

Oh.... you really got me here @dianelson. I didn't expect the ending at all. It's such a sweetly sad tale and it must have meant a lot for you to share it. Turns out her scent was unique to her, not because she was using her sister's. I don't know why I'm feeling bad now but I hope she's at peace wherever she is.🌺

My @jhymi 🥺🥺🥺

I hope so. Emem was a good person so without a doubt I know she is❤️

Such a sad, heartbreaking tale. I gather that you’d rather not say what the cause was🥲, but it’s not really important. What is important is that she left a piece of herself with you and it’s something that will always endear her to you. Also, I think that she would love this tribute that you’ve written for her. 🤗💕❤️💕🤗

Up until today, I still don't know what caused it.

It was just so unexpected. Like the least expected thing just happens.

Also, I think that she would love this tribute that you’ve written for her. 🤗💕❤️💕🤗

I hope she is up there seeing everything and she knows how much I miss her🥺

Thank you ❤️❤️

Life goes through situations so difficult to understand that many times it collapses us, that's the way it happens with the people that one esteems, suddenly so many memories of experiences leave us. In your case, the smell of your friend remained in your subconscious and she will accompany you for the rest of your life.

A very moving story, thanks for sharing.
Good day.

Thanks for reading❤️.

The saddest thing is that I know she smelt like someone I wanted to hug all day, but now I don't remember her particular scent.

At least the memories will always be more than enough.

friend of mine told me that everyone in the world had an essence.

The person that said this was totally on the right track. It's a good thing you got to realize this in the end.

Loosing a friend and tight pal can be very devastating. You're actually a very strong person as I wouldn't have been able to continue school without being traumatized. Emem is indeed in a good place.

This was a beautiful read hunny ✨

This was a beautiful read hunny ✨

If this wasn't a sad story. I would have said thank you bunny😂.
I'm sorry. I'm one of those people that laugh in serious situations.

Loosing a friend and tight pal can be very devastating. You're actually a very strong person as I wouldn't have been able to continue school without being traumatized. Emem is indeed in a good place.

It was so painful. I kept talking about all the things we would never get to do together for months.
Time is really wonderful.

i'm sorry. I'm one of those people that laugh in serious situations.

😂 well, you're not alone on this. I'm the wrong person to look at in a crowd where "serious" yet hilarious things are being discussed😂

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This is very sad. Scents remind of good and sad memories but they are the most powerful thing we remember about a person.

They are.

All we can hope for is that we get to experience more of the good.

Thanks for reading ❤️