I might hold this grudge forever

in #hive-1707984 months ago

No matter how offensive a grievance I try not to hold grudges, yet I cannot help but remember Olorunfemi and at the same time the grudge I have held against him for as long as ten years.

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When I was much younger, I was nothing special. Just the new black girl who sat in front of the teacher with her head bent, always scribbling whether it was time to write or not.

I didn't have many friends, in fact, I had no friends at all, except for the scrawny girl who sat next to me and we barely said a word to each other.

I wasn't a shy child but because there was nothing important to say to the members of my class.

Olorunfemi on the other hand was the complete opposite of me. He was the male senior prefect of the entire junior secondary section and maybe that was the reason he could do whatever he wanted.

He excused himself from class in the middle of lessons,

“We have prefects meeting” he would say to the teacher and he or she would simply dismiss him with a wave of their hands, the same teachers who found it difficult to even grant permission for other members of the class to ease themselves.

When it was the day for sports and recreational activities, he would be the one to interrupt the teacher's lesson.

Excuse me ma, it's time for sports” he told our health education teacher one day. She looked at him through her glasses and shook her head.

“Olorunfemi, the position of the senior prefect does not give you the power over your teachers. You are limited to your colleagues, and the students. Now take your seat or get out of my class”

I saw how his nose and lips scrunched up with displeasure, throughout the rest of that class, his head was on the table. He didn't listen to a single word the woman was saying and as she said sometime during the end of the lesson, we couldn't blame him, some people were playful learners.

Olorunfemi did not bother me much but I didn't like him. I had grown a distaste for his character and was pleased that I would be leaving the school with his troubles behind soon enough, but not until we both joined the debates club.

The second term came with a new recreational activities director, Mr Excellent. We called him that because he used the word at every given opportunity. Mr Excellent was an excellent man with excellent ideas, he introduced the school clubs to us and asked that every junior secondary school 3 class member head every club.

There were about 5 clubs as I remember; the press club, they read news during the general assembly every Monday and Friday mornings. In the debate club; we organized debates based on assigned topics by our debate master who happened to be Mr Excellent himself and presented it during recreational activities time on Wednesdays.

There was the Arts and Cultural Club, they were responsible for all artistic and cultural displays and dances during the end-of-session parties, there were also the Boys Brigade/Girls Scout clubs. They prided themselves in being the security of the school, then there were the entertainment clubs. They comprised the singers, dancers, and actors of the school.

Mr Excellent spent a great deal of time working on the debate team. I myself represented the team twice during recreational activities and I felt proud, but the event that made me never forget Olorunfemi happened during preparation for the school's end-of-the-year party.

Mr Excellent needed someone to head the debate team since he was going to be busy with other activities concerning the end-of-the-year party, so he organized a debate among all the JS3 students in the club.

Olorunfemi and I were on the same team by chance and I brought up the idea that we should get both our points and the opponent's points so we could easily counter them.

Mr Excellent came to find out how we were preparing and Olorunfemi rose.

“Sir, we are planning to get both our points and the points of the opposing side so we can easily win”

“Oh that is extremely excellent! I am proud of you Olorunfemi. In fact, I think I have seen my leader”

My mouth dropped open. That wasn't the plan,

“I need a leader who is innovative, smart, and possesses leadership qualities” Mr Excellent was still saying.

I was shocked that Olorunfemi would steal someone's thunder in broad daylight. The other members of my team didn't think it wise to stand up for me or tell Mr Excellent that I was the one who brought the idea and if that was what he was using to choose his leader, then I was to head the club and not Olorunfemi. After all, the boy was already heading the school.

That same day after recreational activities, I left the club and went to become a member of the Entertainment club without telling anybody. Nobody asked about me as I expected and I didn't explain why to anybody either.

I cannot stop thinking of how Olorunfemi stole my thunder without the slightest regret, I still bear that grudge against him today.

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People like Olorunfemi thrive by taking ideas of others to shine, he could had acknowledged you for being the brain behind the debate idea.

I get why you will have a grudge against him, but since it's been such a long time ago, I think it's best if you let go of such grudge.

I guess, after writing this I feel a little better. Thank you for the advice, @funshee

Writing about our feelings sure has a way of making us feel better, have a lovely day❣️ @iskawrites

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Beautiful write up, thanks for sharing

Glad you loved it. Thank you for reading

This is very informative, I have learnt a lot from it. Nice piece.

Good to know, @kinganny
Thank you for reading

I cannot call that sharp guy, but I can call it "over too know". Anyone with this character is someone who I am always not in support of.

Seems he allowed the position conferred on him to get into his head.

At work place someone did same to me but I never allow anybody to bully me. Never

You stood up to the person? Wow! That was bold and good 👍👏

What jealousy can do to people is beyond my understanding.

I hope they change the sooner

I have such an experience before too, where my idea was stolen by my school mate in an Arts Competition.
Just trying to imagine how you coped when you didn't have friends at the beginning?

It wasn't easy 😕
Maybe, if I had friends, they'd have amplified it and probably everyone would have known what Olorunfemi did.

Olorunfemi didn't do well. Even from reading this, I don't like him.

He didn't do well at all.

That's terrible of him and it really doesn't add any value to him outside the school wall, you are still the smart one even though Mr. Excellent don't see it.

There are a lot of people like that dude and they are so specialized in stealing people's shine.

In this present times, they are still roaming free with people's shine. Talmbout, one doesn't need another's idea to shine. An idea can birth another idea and together we all can shine.

True, through ideas we can shine

I know that Olorunfemi where ever he his might have forgotten what he did, while you remember everything clearly just like it was yesterday, this is why they always say that one should try not to step on people's toes because it might come back and hunt you.

Reading through your story makes me remember the popular book I read for my JAMB examination for 10 years ago. It reminded me of my secondary school as well, not much though because I attended a boys only secondary school

People never forget how you treat them or what you do to them. It was shocking to see him do that, and no one stood up to counter him.

Olorunfemi acted smart but silly
That’s not the best behavior he could have portrayed
He doesn’t even need this silly attitude

Smartness like that is being cunning.
And as you said, he doesn't even need it. Thank you for reading, @bisolamih

I understand your relief towards Olorunfemi, he was a very conceited boy, which made him disliked by his classmates.

Thank you for reading, @rammargarita

Hi @iskawrites, time without reading you.
Interesting story and very well told, I'm sorry that Olorunfemi, stole your idea, and I'm also sorry that you left the discussion group, if you liked it, you should have stayed and earned your space.
As for the grudge, it really is not healthy, hopefully and stop feeling it, as it embitters the soul.
It was a pleasure to read you.
My greetings.
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After much thought, I shouldn't have left the discussion group. In no time I would have earned my space but it is what it is – it's been a long time.

And yeah, just like someone encouraged me to let go of the grudge, after putting out this piece, I felt relieved.

Thank you for the kind words, @osomar357

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