Do we all agree that except we have a very strong dislike for someone or something about them, , the more we spend quality time with them, we eventually become too attached to them that we end up liking them or falling for them in some ways?.
Whether we accept this truth or not, this is what happens and the chances that we don't get attached to someone we spend the most time with is very slim.
We say falling in love is easy but falling out of love is hard? Anyways I don't think that theory applies to everyone.
Taking myself as an example, it's quite the opposite for me, I don't easily fall in love or fall for someone just by spending quality time with them. Except I liked them from the start or perhaps there was something about them I find fascinating and interesting.
But falling out of love? That's way easier for me to do
But to some people, they call it infatuation, saying I may have not loved these people in the first place that's why it seemed very easy for me to fall out of love with them.
I don't know if this is a thing, but I can open up and welcome someone into my heart, my space, but the moment something disastrous happens that demands letting them go, I do just that with ease, it might actually look difficult at first, of course the first few days and weeks is the toughest but after just a few days or weeks, I am over with such and it only becomes a memory for me and a past that I most likely not regret
Perhaps not holding grudges is what also helps in the healing and letting go process and journey.
And just like I earlier mentioned, if getting close to someone, being too frequent with them and spending quality time with these people could get one pretty much attached to the point of taking a liking in them, then I believe to revert that, one also needs to restrain their steps, create a gap and distance between themselves and reduce the quality time spend with the ones they are attached to and this could help them easily get rid or let go of the people they find difficult to let go because of their relationship with them.
This is my personal discovery of the falling in and out of love
So if it gets too difficult, your love life gets too difficult to hold onto, you can simply revert everything you've been doing from the moment you picked a liking in the person you are trying to let go of.
11 June, 2024
