When I was pursuing my first degree, there was this rumor about me that made me wonder if there was another me on that campus. After I figured out the source of the rumor, I began to re-evaluate the kind of conversations I was having. It was really surprising to know that I didn’t even bring that thing up in any conversation. The person that started the rumor was someone who asked me a question about me. I guess she didn’t hear what she wanted to hear so she created her own answer.
I really liked that rumor, it was funny and made no sense. I didn’t answer her because I felt like it was none of her business. Now that I think of it, I’m so happy I kept my mouth shut. She would have added spice to my answer and probably written a book about it which I know would really sell, hehe.
People don’t care about you like that. They only are curious to know what’s happening in your life. Others won’t stop bothering you until you tell them something. You on the other hand might also think “oh, this person really cares about me and that’s why they are pressing so hard to know what’s up with me”. Jokes on you!
This is why I have to normalize lying about my personal life. I know lying is not good but then it’s better you spread the fake news coming from me than to spread what you’ve created. If I feel you’re going overboard with questions, then I’m sorry but I’m going to cook up a whole pan of lies and feed your ears.
People think I’m nonchalant and I know they attributed that to the fact that I barely go further than “how are you?”. If I know I don’t care about how your day was then why would I even ask in the first place? In fact, a lot of people that became my friends later in life confessed that they thought I hated them when they weren’t my friends. That is because I mind my business a lot(Where they’ve not called me, I’m not going).
I know very well that sometimes it’s too much but then this business have been paying me so well in life so why not invest in it 100%? There are problems we’ve encountered that could have been avoided if only we minded our business in the first place. It will surprise you to know that there probably was an issue you found yourself in that could have been prevented in the first place if only you replied to that message with “I’m sorry about that, I hope you get better” than that “I’m so sorry, what happened?”.
Most times, it’s as if people are expecting to hear something from you and until they hear it, they’ll act all concerned. You just have to be careful and know who cares and who is just nosy. If not, you’ll wake up one day and you’re being featured in BBC news.
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