Adulting, being in adult-hood, is one of the bitter-sweet moment of a person's life.Now let me break this down, as kids, some of us did envision adult stage as one filled with so much freedom, no stress, less hustle. Everything falls in a streamline order, so we wanted to be grown ups so bad I'm sure someone like me would have fast-forward time itself to meet it much sooner.
Spoiler alert, I had it all wrong, it was such a bummer knowing how little I knew of adulthood.
If you don't get it, just take it as waking up with all kinds of pains, I mean invisible pains, where you have no idea you are pained but you feel it somehow. That would be adulthood.
BUT, thank God it's not all bad afterall. I try to imagine adulthood as a pinata, to get to the goodies inside the stuffed animal, you get blindfolded, hit hard at it till it burst open then you can enjoy some candy.
At the end of the day, we get through the responsibilities, face the hurdles and make some wins too.
In the spirit of making wins, regardless of anything, there are positive sides to adulthood .
For starters, I do love that I can make my own decisions. Decision-making is one of the toughest but a shaper of life as well. In the course of that, we make mistakes and learn from them. In so doing, it toughens us, makes us resilient and in the end, helps us to make choices we can be proud of. I love that freedom to make my decision, accept the blame when I fail, learn from it and I feel like a conqueror when I finally make some wins.
I can breath in my own space
As kids, we live under the scrutiny of parents and issues of privacy and having your own space was almost a no-no. It was great, as that nurtured our lives, but, there is time for everything, and adulthood time makes it more possible to have your privacy,be in your own space and feel comfortable.
It doesn't make parents stop being parents though, they still worry about us and sometimes try to invade the privacy, but they respect our space nonetheless. I love that feel of being able to have my privacy.
I get to have my lazy days in peace.
Who are you as an African child, especially an African daughter, to have lazy days in your parents house? when chores awaits you? Unless you are literally sick or you fake sick (laughs).
But as an adult, being responsible for myself, I can be reasonably lazy and not feel guilty or required to do what I do not want to do at a certain point in time. I can decide to stay indoor all day, order take out, get some juice, fold myself in a couch and binge watch movies if I so want to. Total freedom! Code word is reasonable (smiles.)
Adulthood yes is filled with tons of responsibilities but, it does come with its fun moments and happy hours. It's bitter, it's sour, it can be sad, it can be joyous, it gets sweeter and delightful.
That is adulthood, it gives balance between great and not so great moments. I love it regardless.
