Conquering the mountain: The fear of public speaking

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Public Speaking for a lot of people like for me is one of the things I find most difficult to do. Standing in front of a crowd to put out my thoughts has always been a hard task. Even though I've done that a couple of times in school, it still poses as one of the challenging obstacles I face. I find it very difficult to muster the courage to speak confidently before an audience.

Anytime I think of addressing a group of people, I get nervous and fumble. I fear I will stumble over my words, forget what I want to say, make mistakes and get judged. As I move towards the stage, I begin to sweat, get anxious and begin to shake. I fear I would not be able to communicate my thoughts properly as I should; I fear I will fail or get embarrassed as I mount the stage.

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Unfortunately, this hurdle has become a stumbling block to many achievements of mine. I recall during a time in Secondary School where we had to go for prefect ship positions. I was nominated to go in for the position of a sports prefect. I wanted to go too but because they told me I'd have to present a manifesto to the whole school, I backed down at once.

There was this one time in school I was called on to make a presentation for a group work in class. I had really prepared and was ready, or so I thought. I told myself I was going to do it since during that time I told myself I was going to overcome my fears. As I went in front of the class, my heart started beating and I was very nervous. I still mustered courage to do the presentation. After the presentation, my friend texted me to ask me why I was shouting at them the whole time.

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I got so embarrassed and told him it was because I was nervous. During that presentation, I remember I shouted at another guy for asking a question. So, after my friend told me this, I got sad and told myself, that was it for presentations for me and that I wasn't going to do any again. From that moment, the fear of public speaking gripped me tightly.

As time went on, I realized this fear was a hinderance to my academic and professional growth and I needed to work on it.
I've decided to not feel too bad about criticisms and also partake actively in class since I'm a student; to ask more questions and also answer questions when asked.

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I'm also trying to accept that, failing is a part of success and it's not so bad to fail if I'm going to learn from it and bounce back.
Public speaking might be a daunting task but not an insurmountable one. From now on, I've decided that through resilience, practice and boldness, I will conquer this fear.

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My fear of failure is something that is too much and I'm working on how to control it

I went from stage fright to mic fright. Call me up on a stage I'll start shaking like a leave being blown by the wind,the first day I started working in a radio station was catastrophic.I'm not perfect but I had to fight it it wasn't easy though,never easy.
You too can overcome stage fright

We are glad that you know failing is part of success. It’s alright to fall, but it’s never okay to stay on the ground.
Trust me, you’ll conquer this fear and in some years to come, we’ll see you on bigger stages.