Love hurts because people want the one person who does not like them, the heart indeed wants what it wants but forcing yourself on someone who is not attracted to you nor interested in you leads to heartbreak.
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You could get their attention through materialistic things, you could use the pity card on them or any other trick you can think of but in the end, they will end up leaving because you are not their choice.
When they see someone they love, they will leave and that is when the victim comes out to say they used and dumped them, the signs were there all along but you chose to ignore them because you only care about the way you feel.
Love should be a mutual feeling between both parties, fall in love with someone who loves you, someone who is ready to stay committed and ride the life journey with you, not someone who stays because of what they benefit from you.
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If you ask people why they are in a relationship with the person they are dating, you will see reasons like
I am with him because he loves and adores me
I love him because he treat me right
I love her because she obeys and cares for me
Why is the reason always about the person? what happens if they stop treating you right or stop doing that thing that makes you be in a relationship with them, a good reason to be in a relationship with someone is not because of what they do for you, it should be how they make you feel when you are with them, I love reasons like
I am with him because I love him.
I am with him because I feel great when he is around
I don't even know why I love her.
You see that the third reason is simply the best, when you don't know why you love someone, everything they do seems perfect to you and you see perfection in their imperfection.
The reason why love hurts is people don't date for good reasons, some date for money some date for sex, and other selfish reasons and when they eventually get what they want, they look for ways to dump their partner, it could be giving attitude or silent treatment and nothing kills a relationship faster than lack of communication.
So before you enter that relationship, make sure that the person you want also wants you and don't depend on someone else to be happy, deep emotional attachment always lead to heartbreak and when you become too clingy, you could scare that person off.
In the end, there is no formula to love, what does not work for someone people works perfectly for others... Just love yourself, treat your partner right and leave the rest to God.
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