For people who are generally jovial in nature, it can be hard to believe they can actually get angry. The smiley faces and cheerful demeanor can often create the impression that nothing can ever get them upset. However, just like every other human, people who are easy-going also have a breaking point. Anger is an emotion that every individual will have to experience at one point. It is true that different people react to anger differently, but it doesn't mean people who react less don't get angry. I am one person that fall into the category of the jovials, I wouldn't describe myself as short-tempered because that, I am not.
For one thing, I don't let minor irritations get to me. I'm always quick to let things go if they are actually not that big of a deal, just for the sake of the peace and quiet. I hate drama, sometimes when I see two people shouting at each other and almost ripping each other's neck, I always ask myself, how did it get to this point. I don't ever see myself in that situation and for the record, I'm not even strong enough to go physical. What if the person slaps me and I slap back, I can't even hold a fight if it ever comes to that. Asides the fact that letting things go saves me from some drama and aia get to save some strength too, the downside is resentment. Having a record of every irritating thing someone did without the person even knowing.
After a long time of holding a lot of things in, of course I always reach my breaking point. Th point where nothing and nobody matters anymore. I just let it all out in a breath. When all the frustration I held on to eventually finds their their way out, it usually a bit chaotic because it comes out in a bunch of unfiltered, hurtful words which I always regret afterwards. Subconsciously, it's just my way of showing the other person how much hurt or angry I am, I don't always want to hurt other people back with my words, though it happens.
The regrets afterwards mostly makes me feel bad especially when I have said something really terrible to someone close, only to realise later. Overtime I discovered other ways to handle my angry moments. Walking away from potentially triggering situations has always helped. Even someone even gets a chance to ruin my day or say someone that can make me talk back and make matters worse, I walk away. You may still be looking for words that will spite me, while my back is already turned to you. My walking away is not my way of avoiding the issue at hand because they are issue you can't just avoid, you must address them before it's too late. That single action of walking away gives me the peace I need at that moment to process my thoughts and figure out the best way to react. A lot of times, someone might be looking to get a reaction from in the heat of anger and when they don't see what they're looking for, they're disappointed and you, on the other hand you must have saved yourself the stress of having to fix things you have spoiled with bad mouth.
It's like opening a bottle of soda drink right after you have shaken it thoroughly, the drink spills, you barely get anything from it and you made a mess everywhere. But if you let it rest after shaking, nothing happens when you open it. When people are boiling in anger, try not to boil with them.
After having controlled the situation to some extent by walking away, make room to address the issue in a calmer environment. Like I said, some issues must be addressed. If some keeps disrespecting you as a joke and you keep ignoring to avoid drama, then the person thinks he's being funny and you like the joke. Sometimes sign up for the drama, not in a bad way though, don't break someone's head and call my name. But some people can only hear when their head is broken though. Talk with the person, at least that's what I do. I tell them what they did that got me upset instead of bottling it up.
Open and effective communication can resolve the issue faster than fighting will. In the end, everyone's happy and nobody's head got broken. Queen @abenad will not like this one, she likes to breaks heads, so don't look for her trouble 😄. Anger is just natural, yes you will experience it at some point, and yes you can manage it. Know your weakness when you're angry and turn it to your strength.
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