It’s just funny that these people we see as nosy never see themselves as being nosy, they feel they are the greatest people that care about you and they are only trying to tell you what should be. They are always good at observing things mostly to the spoil of it and the hardly ever play a passive role of listening to be sure if whatever they’ve seen is true. It just gives them pleasure to see that something is not going well so they can come act as a savior in such a situation.
Using the word nosy is something that sends a negative energy so no matter how there might be good in being nosy, for the most of it, it is obvious something that puts people on a tight edge and will hardly ever be encouraged. But then, I have seen a few cases where a nosy person was able to save the day and more cases where they put others in a big mess. I’ve been privileged to be in both scenarios which I’d give a summary of and then give my final words to those who are nosy.
Now, it is good to note that when it comes to our loved ones and those we care about, it is totally fine to be interested in what ever concerns them but we shouldn’t try to over do anything so we don’t end up getting tagged as being nosy and they don’t get comfortable letting us in on things that concern or bother them. Because once anyone starts feeling insecure around you with information, it most times means they are beginning to find you too nosy in things and they are worried it might no longer be safe with you and that is a problem.
So rewind to some years back, I was living with my Aunt and she had this particular neighbor who happened to be her friend, she was a nice person in some obvious ways but the major problem most of us hard with her was that she was really nosy. She hardly ever sees something and keeps it to her self. There was one time my cousin brother made some money from going to work with one of his friend and he used the money to buy some things for himself and some of us. This lady was there and she playfully asked my cousin brother to also buy something for her which he did and since that day, she would always talk in that direction, saying my brother was just buying things up and down instead of him to save.
The whole thing was annoying even to me not to mention how my cousin brother must have felt. She made it sound like my brother was lavishing her money and not his.
Well, the other encounter when I appreciated her being nosy was when on this faithful day I just got back from school and I was so tired and exhausted and because of her nosiness, I was able to get the day off from going to the shop because my Aunt had a little retail shop, for the first time in a while I appreciated her, lol.
Anyways, I’d still prefer you not being nosy in my business, if I could tell that neighbor back then something from my mind, I would have told her to get a job, but that would have sounded really rude. She was working but she still hard a lot of time on her hands so she still got time to meddle in things that doesn’t really concern her. I believe that people are nosy in other’s businesses because they don’t really have a business of their own so if they get one for themselves it will help them curtail that habit of theirs.