Like most people, I hate the sound of failure especially when I put in so much effort. But in as much as I dislike failure, that doesn’t automatically drives it away from anywhere you can find me or anyone, there are some basic things one has to do to help them drive away failure. Just sitting down and thinking about the fact that you don’t like failure is one of the sweetest way to fail. I have come to realize that failure hates actions, so when ever you are actively working on what you are pursuing, failure stays far away from you.
I know life can be tough sometimes and for some of us, we think giving up is the better option because if we give up we don’t have to worry about winning or losing because we never even tried in the first place. Well, that is obviously the easiest way out but it is the most costlier one too. I always like to tell myself and anyone who wishes to give up that giving up is not an option, it shouldn’t even be in the picture for any reason.
Deep down, we all have that giving up instinct and anytime we feel tired of trying, the next sweet thought that swims softly into our naive mind is just let it go like we were Elsa or something. Letting it go is not for you that have not achieved your goal(s), it is for someone who wants to do away with something that has been holding them back. You just have to keep forging ahead no matter how little your steps may be. I know it’s discouraging to know that you’ve been moving but you still have a long way to go but then you will still end up reaching the finish line and win than someone who just stopped running.
I have tried giving up a lot of times but I learnt the hard way and that’s one reason why it comes so easy sharing this with who ever cares to read. I’m so scared of giving up that once I think of it I just swing into action but that takes me so much. So here are some things I do when I feel like giving up that helps me a lot.
Speak up! When you are dealing with an unknown fear of failure, just talk to someone who can motivate you about it. I have been really so lucky of not giving up because I’ve been able to talk to people about my fears of failure. One thing you should know is that, failure is not bad, but it is noteworthy that if you never tried, then that is what is bad. Talking to someone about it will help you know why you just have to keep going.
Whatever point you are in life, it is good to know that it is not a mistake but you’d make a mistake the moment you decide to give up on you. And this is the reason why you need people around, people who can talk to you and you can listen. Also, know that every step of the way counts and failure is part of some of the steps that can propel us to the next level so don’t worry too much when you fail, just don’t give up when you fail and it will surprise you how well you’d do in the next trial.
This is my way of overcoming my failure/fear of failure and I believe this will help you too.