Marriage is actually a complicated thing although some people make it even more complicated than it was ever meant to be. This is mostly the case when people do things the wrong way in their marriage.
If I say I'm married to someone but still fail to step into the role of a husband and father, I will end up having a complicated marriage. The same applies to a wife and mother who neglects her responsibility as someone in that position.
That's what I've noticed about a bunch of marriages. When those married to each other fail to do what they need to do in the roles they have, it makes the marriage unnecessarily complicated. In moments like now, it leads to divorce and that's part of the reason we have so many single parents.
Of course, some other people become single parents after losing their spouses to untimely death or for some of these fairly understandable reasons.
I understand that life can unfold in ways we do not expect. No one knows what awaits them in the future. I fully understand that, and I sympathize with those who find themselves in single-parenting positions for reasons beyond their control.
Everything I've written so far is the foundational things I need y'all to understand before I quickly give an answer to the first question highlighted in @hive.ghana's writing prompt of the week.
Here's the question;
Can you be a stepmother or father? And do you think it’s the right thing to do?
Lemme put it out here for the record... I don't really care if being a stepfather or stepmother is right or wrong. At least, not in this context. Perhaps, when there's context to the discussion, I will give my stance to that in that exact context.
Will I take up a stepfather position?
Nope!
Not after the way I've lived my life.
Why would I take up a stepfather position when I can get married to a lady who's yet to have a child? I prefer to be a direct Dad than a stepdad.
In the same manner, I hope and pray I never find myself in a position where I would have to need someone to take up the stepmom position for my kids.
Nah!
What I can do right now is to be sure I'm working on building a home with a Lady who has what it takes to be a lovely Wife and Mum. I'm also learning and practicing each day to grow into becoming a Man who would be a respectable husband and Dad.
I know there are some other things that are outside my power. For those ones, I pray God helps me have the sort of job I want in the future.
Thanks For Not Missing Any Full-stop or Comma.
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