Forgive others, not because they deserve your forgiveness but because you deserve peace
forgiveness is a gift, it's not everyone that has it but it can be mastered.
one of the key to having a forgiven heart is that you need to resolve to always be happy
and have love for pets and humans.
forgiveness is not an easy thing to have, and so is resentment not an easy thing to live with.
another thing is that you should be more exposed to people, (don't isolate yourself) isolation turns you into a bitter and suspicious person.
these three points stated above can help you cultivate a forgiven heart
let's do a little explanation on them.
have a happy heart
find things that will always make you happy, and one of the easiest way to be happy, is to be contented and appreciative,
lack of contention is one of the main reason of grudge and self hate.
seeing your mother in good health can be your source of happiness, for some, being alive is thier source of happiness because when there is life there is hope
Warning: dont let your source of happiness be on any material thing, people or money, to avoid disappointment I think being alive should do.
love for pets and humanity
my opinion is that it's easy to develop genuine love for pets than for humans.
people who can tolerate animals can be quick to forgive humans, because they won't take things too personal, base on thier experience with animals
Warning: these is just a personal preference technique, it may be otherwise, drop your comments.
The isolation pill
don't ever take the isolation pill, it's a killer pill, the problem is it kills you from the inside then out
quiet and isolated people are a danger to nature, and mother nature loves serenity.
isolation conserves things it doesn't preserve them, isolation decays but keeps bad thoughts inside you, though decayed but alive, like when you quarantine someone with a transfarable virus or desease.
people who takes isolation pills can harbour grudge for as long as they last.
Warning: there is no remedy to this, if you practice isolation extensively you might never be able to forgive people easily unless you come out of your own self inflicted prison.
I have learnt that forgiven people is our everyday test, a test you don't prepare for
one of the thing that has helped me forgive people easily is that I have learned that humans are body of errors that are ready to spoil your neat page of exam paper, so I don't take things too personal
and I don't hide how I feel about an error somebody makes that pains me, because consistent bottled up wrongs done by someone to us may cause resentment, let it all out
thanks for reading my post.