Limits of Forgiveness

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To err is to human and to forgive they say is divine. However, not everyone deserves forgiveness. I know you’d probably want to preach to me that even God forgives us so how much more we human. You’re right!

Everyone deserves a second and probably a third chance but there’s always those things we can’t just over look. Personally, I’m a very forgiving person. I don’t take things to heart because I value my peace of mind so much. Holding on to things which I won’t benefit from is really not something I find being worth the stress.

For most stuff, I always forgive but to forget, nah! I’d always remember what you did in all my dealings with you even though I have forgiven you. It’s more like it serving as a reference or lesson to me in order to know my boundaries with you. It’s a forgive and not forget situation for me.

But, there are some things that don’t deserve a second chance to me. For example, my best friend sleeping with my husband isn’t something I should or am supposed to just forgive and forget. Both parties involved would just have to be washed out of my life cos the betrayal is next level. Sometimes it’s not even the betrayal but the party involved and how much their actions hurt you.

Loyalty and honesty are very important to me and once I find out that someone isn’t loyal and honest, I wouldn’t be myself around them. However, sometimes we really don’t have an option in some situations . If I’m working with such a person after everything that has happened, I’m obviously going to keep it strictly professional no matter the kind of relationship we had before. Sometimes such betrayals are enough to take you to your early grave and this can’t be me. Affliction they say shall not befall you twice.

As snitches get stitches, betrayers don’t also deserve forgiveness!


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Forgive and forget, like I did for everything you did to me. I can’t even remember because I already forget after I have forgiven you

And I’m 100 on loyalty and honesty.

Back to the topic, it’s always good to forgive but I don’t know where the references of forgive and forget game from actually because it doesn’t seems to work. I can truly forgive a person and forget but once I see some signs that same person is making, the first issue we had wouldn’t make me have 100 percent trust for them

Beside that explains you gave was mind flinching but it’s a good one. Husband, sleep with another best friend. You think I’m looking at abenad? She’s not even entrying my eyes, only you 🤭

What did I do to you?😂😂

😂😂why will Abenad even be looking at you? Abeg shift.

Ahhh, you know what you did. I’ll not say anything

Hehe

Once bitten, twice shy! Nice story

Thanks for passing by.

Welcome

As usual mature outlook! And your already wise. Forgive but not forget…same here…

Well!! … in the example you highlighted before, its good your able to break free, there are many women who can’t leave their husbands if they cheated, betrayed and all that…

Security and financial independence. I understand this because I live in toxic family, meaning they keep you, protect you but don’t trust you and say things that make you feel unworthy which is true also and false also!

I am used to it but that feels like living a lie without dignity and respect.
Leave that aside… I am glad of your approach.

But people besides my family for small mistakes have abandoned me from childhood, for misunderstandinds or feeling that I am just to boring, don’t do much in life etc… or just because of difference of opinion.
My family if they are not bound by bonds of bloods would also have abandoned me like others completely, stay away…she’s unworthy kind! So, I don’t like them atall because they are fake, unauthentic!

So, I guess I also given that treatment of not being forgiven for what I am. That’s made me more toxic in a way I guess, but I stay away from people but not completely.
I suppose forgiving one self, accepting our faults and making peace with reality and working to sharpen our innumerable better qualities take us somewhere.
But I stay away from getting into relationships anyway… even by mistake! Always a loner, but that’s my choice! I don’t get along with human beings, yes I do with some people because I can have good time with them.

So, that’s that. Stay away from toxic people, I too do because even if I am toxic I hate toxic people! Only trust people who you can, based on your experience and knowhow of them. I am sure there are nice people too. Each one his own! Just don’t get too involved with someone whose not been tested… and passed the test of trustworthiness. Because they may do rotten things, can’t be helped!
Good day!

I don’t you need forgiveness from others for being who you are. That’s something I’m never going to do.

The issue of family is a very difficult one but at the end of the day, we are still family I guess.

Sending love and light!❤️

Hey... "I don’t you need forgiveness from others for being who you are. That’s something I’m never going to do."

you don't need forgiveness from others for being who you are." is what you meant I guess(:

THere some sentense mistake.

I always seemed to be seeking forgiveness from the world for who I am.

Yes family is a difficult one, but in my mind, I am divorced from family...no love , only bonds of blood and I don't like it that way... I would like trust, believe and liking and accepting me for me than keeping me because I am blood and fleash!

But thing is love - can also be attachment oriented, (object than real) but it's actually hallow.

Because... well... anyway! thanks for commenting dear!

I hope everything falls in it’s place soon. Some of these things can be tough sometimes. We all deserve love.

It's one thing to forgive but it's a bigger thing to forget, personally, I don't even think anyone on earth forgets, it keeps serving as a point of reference always
It's much better you never get to lose the trust a friend placed on you

You’re right. Trust is very important.