There are so many things I have learnt in this life but now I sit here wondering if I really know what love is. I guess all I know is that love is a beautiful thing and everyone deserves to have a feel of it. In todays world, the meaning of love is totally different from its meaning in the olden days and you would agree with me.
Everyone has their own personal definition of love and I’d like to believe that it has to do with the kind of love they have received in the course of their life. There are people who are so used to being with toxic people and receiving half baked love and they accept it as it is. These individuals in the long run would find it hard to accept genuine love which is free from toxicity and even if they eventually do, it would take them so long to finally come to learn that they deserve the best and not the bare minimum from anyone else.
Thinking about it now , I’ve heard so many people say that the only form of unconditional love is the love of a mother but I would like to believe it isn’t the same story for everyone. Love is beautiful , but then I believe that how we choose to love our partners depends on us and what love even means to us. Once, I had someone tell me that sometimes conditional love is necessary. Imagine going on to marry someone who can’t even afford one meal a day for himself. It’s more like seeing hell and waking right into it. We all know that marriage isn’t something to joke with and we should and have to be financially stable to even venture into. And so, it makes sense for someone to have the condition that they want to marry only well to do men or women.
On the other hand, I’m wondering if unconditional love even exists at all. Because for someone to even love you for who you are is a condition. I don’t know if you get me.😅 If someone tells you they love you for who you are, I would obviously translate it to mean that, if you weren’t who you are, they wouldn’t even take a second look at you. That sounds like a condition to me if you ask me. Maybe I’m crazy but you can give it some thought. I’m really not an expert at love but I’ve had so many people I look up to tell me that only love can’t hold the fort together.
So many things come to play when we talk about love. It isn’t only about how fast your heart beats when you see them. It entails so many things. Even your actions and words towards someone you love wouldn’t be the same with others. Sometimes we look up to those we love for so many thing and I think it’s actually a bad thing because what if your expectations are not met? This is where conditional love becomes messy and you’d hear them say, after all I did for you , you couldn’t even do this and that for me and a whole lot.
Personally , I’d like to believe that love should be a mix of conditional and unconditional but positively. But then again, I think the whole concept of love is subjective. Just make sure not to be served breakfast. Ease!
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