The relationship: knowing the time to pick the red flag and when to stay

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Welcome to my blog, my name is Valblesza
how are you doing.

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A relationship is coming together, but whatever coming together means depends on both the partners. However, many people today are in one or two relationships, which most have lasted beyond imagination.

I have seen so relationships, being a living witness, where two lovers have been there for years, yet it seems that is a greater indecision on what to base the relationship or whether to stay or leave.

I have a friend by the name of Jerry and Nancy, both our lovers bird, hardworking young people, strong in the feelings of whatever they had for each other.

This is basically the third year of this relationship, considering the age and time factors as humans. Jerry may friend, with all indication, I don't think he has any plans at all.

It is a three-year relationship with a young lady of about 28 of age, whereas Jerry was already in his 32s this year.

For me, that's a pretty okay for married to take place,
Since the both of them are doing well in their career and financial statements.
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I believe that three years is an enough to tackle whatever two partners need to know about themselves before marriage.

If there is any reason one people should extend a relationship more than three years, then would be something else entirely.

I also tell young men and ladies of today that a relationship that goes beyond three is an illegitimate marriage. You're busy cooking, washing, cleaning and performing the responsibility of a Core wife.

These things are known by the emotions they both put out.

Any relationship that goes beyond three years without both the partners showing interest in family, ways to please as a young man, a young woman walk away and let go.

The signs you should note about a wrong relationship are that should determine when to let go;

1: How directive is the conservation: When your conversation is not always directed or channelled to a positive output. Such as family planning or building by the young lady or the young man, then note that he or she is not interested.

This mostly happens when there is no direct response from either of the partners in issues concerning raising a family or going into family ways.

2: A am not ready: This is the funniest word I have ever come across in relationship, people think that they need all the time to venture into marriage ways.
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It when you hear your partner say I am not ready yet, then think about why, it is either he is not emotionally ready to make a family but ready to use the relationship to perform marital responsibilities

So when you begin to hear this national anthem no, it is time to go.

I require some time: If the same time goes beyond two to three years, please leave that relationship. What is really some time, when you have a financial capital, and firm at least a good paying job.

I don't see anything that should keep one beyond thirty before going into marital ways.

And most people have these fortunes, yet they should be given some time, both partners coming across this attitude in their relationship should let go and look for the next customer.

This time, that people keep saying they require from their partner marital topics are being raised, what is the extension of this time is for?

Some individuals just say it, either to have a change of mind from their present relationship, or they truly do not love themselves.

As a human, you most not be in a relationship with your hearts alone but have a receptive and expressive skills a perceived psychological reasoning, such as knowing when to stay and when not to stay.
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Knowing what your partner always mean to say, by give me some time. People actually know what this means, but they keep up deceiving themselves, leaving the hole of their lives in that relationship. And such time is when you keep on hearing I require some time, leave that relationship.

This has made many young people to spend their entire lives with unfruitful partners that they later regret if they had earlier walked away.

So my advice to young people, to see and have time limit to what they want in the relationship life, from the experience I have got in relationship and that which my friend Jerry and Nancy.

In my relationship with my ex fiancé is an imprint that would never leave our part so easily. Will both saw the red flag, but we pretended there weren't, no bad signers.

It nearly destroyed my life, and hers too. The relationship didn't walk out, and it was time for us to walk away.

But our persistent, that we could make it happen were too obvious, after five years, that we were not ready to build a family with each other.

I got to realize that too late because I thought I needed all the time in this world and to get all the money in the world before I could bring such conversations to the table.

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Like they say birds of the father's flogs, it affected Jerry my friend too, so two or Less is good enough to know when to whether to stay or let go. But when it goes beyond that, let go quickly.

If you're patient enough, you can stay for three years, but two is my recommendation.

Because if you don't learn and know when to leave that horrible relationship, it may destroy your life entirely.

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Thanks for reading this to the end

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I think it basically depends on the people the relationship

Personally I think relationships shouldn't last longer than a year

I said two to three years depending on who's in that relationship, but Like you said a year is good enough.