NAVIGATING THE GRAY AREAS

in #hive-1776822 months ago

"Life can be hard on us sometimes, and other times we just enjoy the feeling of having everything go our way. As humans, we are imperfect beings trying to be perfect, so it's absurd when I see someone trying to say someone else shouldn't make a mistake. We make mistakes almost every time, but this depends on the place and people we find ourselves with. Everyone is different, with different ideas, backgrounds, levels of faith, and ways of seeing things.

In all these differences, it's what brings out the beauty of humanity. Getting offended can be a really sad feeling, but then it's something that we just have to expect as long as we live among ourselves. And even as people offend us, we also offend them too, and that's how we get to settle our differences and grow to love ourselves more, or others might choose to hate themselves more - our choice!

Personally, I've had a lot of misunderstandings with friends, family, colleagues, and classmates. One of the most recent misunderstandings I had was with a friend. You know, it's always more common to have misunderstandings with those you are closer with than those who are afar off, and that's basically because you both get to know more of yourselves by the day, so it's easier to notice something that you don't agree with, and that can cause either of you to have a misunderstanding.

My friend and I are quite close, and for some reason, we had planned to go home together since she was having issues with her electricity at her hostel. I was still having a class, so I had to tell her to go before me, and when I got home, I'd reach out to her so she could come to my place to charge her things. Since I also didn't have power supply the previous day, my power bank was down, so I had to give it to another friend of mine to help me charge it, and that delayed me while I was going back home. By the time I got home, I had already forgotten I was supposed to call my friend to come charge her gadgets. It took a while before I could remember, and by that time, the electricity was already gone.

I had actually left a message for her to come, just in case I forgot, but her phone was already low, so she didn't get the message when she was supposed to. When she saw it, she asked me why I didn't call her, and I had to tell her what happened, but from her response, I knew she wasn't happy with me, and I quickly had to apologize to her, and she said she was fine, that she would have called me but didn't want to disturb me. With that response, I felt a bit sad because why would she think she is disturbing me? Well, I had to tell her that it was wrong of her to think that way, but she didn't even give a reply. Since then, we haven't been talking like before, not that we are quarreling, but I guess she just wants to be left alone since she still thinks that she is disturbing me.

Recently, she messaged me, and we talked well, which made me happy that she replied to my message, and it's good to know that she wasn't really upset, just that she doesn't want to be a burden to me in any way. It was thanks to this situation that I realized that sometimes, even if people don't give a response to us, we shouldn't categorize it as nothing.

This experience taught me the importance of understanding and communication in relationships. I got to realize that misunderstandings are inevitable, but they can be resolved through open communication. Baseless assumptions and miscommunications can lead to unnecessary conflicts. Empathy and understanding are crucial in relationships and my experience also helped me understand this better. Also I know People may have different perspectives and ways of handling situations so forgiveness and apologies can help resolve issues and improve relationships.

This is my response to the #neoxianprompts; it's a pleasure having you stop by."

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It takes two to tangle. I guess she hasn't really been of help to u before , so having to ask of help from u seems disturbing. U just have to make her feel at ease around u enough to freely take. U could start by asking from her

Hmm, this makes sense a lot but you know, I always ask from her, she is the one that hardly asks me for something 😂

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It's good to communicate when someone wrongs you so the person understands why you aren't happy with them and to also apologize when you wrong someone.

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That’s right mama ☺️

Communication plays a huge role in relationships. understanding, empathy, forgiveness, and apologies helps resolve issues quickly and improve our relationship with one another. It's good to know that you understand her feelings of unhappiness after you placed the call and then apologized. Apology heals broken relationship and leaves us with peace of mind with one another.
Great job hopy

You’re right mama, apologizing does a lot more than we can even see and I’m happy I was able to apologize to her.

Thank you so much for your beautiful contribution and for the support mama ❤️

The moment she messaged you for reconciliation, that's the sweetest part. We are humans and things like this get to play out once in a while. It's all about understanding

Yeah, that brought a smile to my face.

Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving your contribution 🥰

Welcome dear

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Thank you so much ❤️

@hopestylist, you are most welcome!

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Yeah, I was also thinking about why she even thought she was disturbing you if you two were truly friends. Well, I guess the friendship was not friendshiping because if it was me I would have found a way into your room before you even come back o

Hahaha, I was just imagining the scene with you being my friend, I for collect 🤣.

Well, I guess that’s the difference we have, for her she saw it as intruding but what’s friendship without intruding? I wonder, hehe

Friendship without intruding until your friend run away with the chicken on your food😂😂😂

Eiii 🤣🤣🤣

We will sha fight or I won’t even care then we will settle again, that’s just it 🤣.

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The beauty of thr human life actually lies in the fact of imperfection which brings about personal development.
Not to make mistake is only a dream and is never possible even for the most conscious being.
Your points are well articulated
E b like I go dey contract you to dey write me articles, hehe

Yes oo, that’s just it.

I’m glad you enjoyed reading this one too sir, hehe. Bring your deals oo, it’s just for small money 😝

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Thank you so much ❤️

You've summarised the situation well. Assumptions often lead to misunderstandings. Open communication is always important. One can assume that your friend could have also gotten in touch but not eveyone has the same personalities. It is good that you communicated and that your friendship is now stronger because you understand each other better.

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Yeah, there were some in between overlooked scenes but I’m happy everything is fine now.

Thank you so much for stopping by 🥰