Wearing & Eating Your Worth

in #hive-1776825 months ago


In Nigeria, people dress for every occasion, and not dressing appropriately can give the impression that you are poor. To some extent, dressing may reflect some people's financial statements, because one way to detect an improvement in people's financial status is how well they feed and dress; it is nearly impossible for people to earn more money while continuing to dress the way they did previously.

However, this is not always true.

When my finances improved in 2018, it reflected in my way of life; however, I have noticed that I no longer dress as flamboyantly as I once did. I think it was because I no longer needed to prove anything. I am not financially free, infact, I have medical debts and other debts which I will eventually find ways to pay, but I'm actually not broke to the extent that I cannot cloth, pay rent or feed.

People used to buy things to prove they could afford them, and I believe I did as well, but as I grew older, I stopped doing so.

Many people choose to wear expensive clothes to impress others, perhaps a woman, or to attract wealthy suitors; however, aside from dressing to look decent, I believe there is nothing valuable about dressing to kill or impress, as it has no inherent value.

A few days ago, I was dressed to go shopping for medicine when a man approached me and asked about my cousin. He asked why I had not asked my cousin to get me a job. He probably did this because I preferred to wear shorts and T-shirts to almost every occasion. He assumed I was probably broke and hungry, which is why I was not dressed like every other young guy out there, with Gucci and expensive clothes.

If I sold the Galaxy A72 phone I was holding, it would probably cover his rent for a year and leave enough money to feed him and his family for about a month. However, he was unable to notice this detail because society relies heavily on how you dress to determine your financial status. It is true that I chose to dress cheaply, and this is most likely because I believe that life is vanity, that we are all strangers in this world, and that you must go through life to understand the value of moderation.

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For someone who was a fan of fancy wrist watches, I rarely wear them anymore; there is nothing wrong with that, but the way society works is twisted, and anything out of the ordinary is considered insane. People wear and eat their worth, which is how you can tell how much money they have in their bank account. Some people even wear extremely expensive clothing and justify it with the phrase "dress how you want to be addressed."

Some people become more obsessed with spending as their income increases, while others simply achieve a diminishing return. Some people enjoy their money for the first few years; they buy whatever they want, and as time passes, they no longer see the point in buying more things. Most of the time, it takes a lot of money to get to this stage, and I am not even sure what that level of wealth is.

I have mentally checked out of being enthralled by expensive clothes and expensive living; unfortunately, it gives the impression that you are going hungry and most likely can not feed yourself. To some extent, it is amusing to observe how ordinary people behave and react. People would make assumptions based on what they saw and would not take the time to seek out additional information.

This is why deception is a visual phenomenon.

It first targets the eyes before unleashing a powerful deception that captures the mind. Selling deception, in my opinion, is expensive; it takes effort to convince others that you are who you are not, which is what most people do. People have normalized deception as a way of life, and if you do not fit in, you will be considered an outlier.

For me, I truly choose normalcy over flamboyancy, and I hope to continue meeting more people like the man I met yesterday; it would validate my thoughts that most people over here would choose to eat and wear their worth.



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I don't care too much about what others think but I do agree that too many people rely on what they see. I would prefer to keep my life stable and good rather than spending money to just look good.

I don't care much either too, but I was just trying to talk about how it is over here. Not a lot of people care about stability, just show offs

Your family member has real found true contentment without needing to show off wealth through flashy possessions. That's so inspiring brother. Honestly living comfortably without the pressure to impress others is something more people should strive for.

The person in question is not a family member, just a random guy on the street

Oh sorry about that meant to say fellow Nigerian citizen hehehe !BEER

This is why deception is a visual phenomenon.. A lot miss out in details. Anyway, it can also be a hedge to you when you are filtering friends. Not all friends that I need, my space is very important for healthy living.

Cloths help with first impressions, but I always thought people who put too much emphasis on them do it to compensate for something they lack, or to try to fit in where they normally don't.

Well, you're right. I'm a neat and decent dresser, however unlike back in the day, I no longer do it.. I just wear want I want to, since it doesn't really matter anymore to me

Maybe it depends on the culture too. As you said, mostly everyone in Nigeria tries to dress according to their status. Over here you find different people doing what they want. You'll still be judged for the way you dress, but for example, I rarely buy clothing for their brand, but rather for their utility.

The idea that you have to look rich to be called rich is so terrible in our society.
Fake it till you make it has become the order of the day.

It's how it is in this my side of the world, it's fascinating to see it's like that here.

This worth ✅💪🏻

It’s just like what I said about Davido’s wedding. Oh yeah, I loved it and I didn’t criticize it at all. I was just saying that if it were the likes of Elon Musk, Dangote, Otedola and co. You won’t see them spray money. You sabi all these rich men mentality nah😅😅😅
I’m not criticizing David ooh cos if I’m the one, I fit spray too😅

What did you say about the wedding, is it about their dressing or?

A family member is a multi millionaire in dollars and you would never know. He had holes in the soles of his shoes the last time I saw him and drives a 1990's Toyota Corolla. He is happy and does not need flashy things even though he could afford whatever he wants. Most people I see who are flashy cannot afford what they are driving or wearing and are in debt.

True, you're right. I've seen an example of people like this. They're just happy with the things they're wearing and driving and they don't need anymore.
In my side of Africa, true wealth is perceived in what you wear and own and it takes a more perceptive people to think otherwise.

Only because they have not got wealth and think that is what wealthy people would wear and drive. I would guess 90% of the cars on the road are either company cars or have serious debt owing on them and may are struggling to pay them off. I know the Indians in SA buy expensive cars and live in what would be considered standard housing because they like to feel or give the impression they are wealthy. Myself I would rather have a nice house and a normal car because the property is an investment and a car depreciates in value.

Only because they have not got wealth and think that is what wealthy people would wear and drive.

This is also true, it's mostly living the assumption of what they believe a wealthy person would do. On the contrary, some wealthy contented wouldn't.
Over here, people would rather have you believe they're rich, because they feel ashamed to be seen as "struggling"

I haven't seen how foreign Indians live, their financial and all. However it's just saddening how some people view wealth as the things they need to wear, eat or even drive and prefer to be in debt.

Every aboki with his own kettle.

I love my simple lifestyle and nothing is gonna make me change it. I can't deal with people who live flamboyant lifestyles, infact some borrow just to be in that click and that's too bad.

I can't imagine myself dressing up to please who or what society that doesn't pay my bills As I dey like this, I rock my okirika with pride and I no send anybody. If you don't like it, get me designers. 😂

It's only the gullible ones that will be lured into the act of deception that we see some people sell now. One who knows what he wants in life won't fall for all these.

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