When I was younger, a lot of older people around me would say "leave women and make money", implying that a man with money will eventually have a good wife, a happy family, and happily ever after. This statement was not specifically about women; rather, it was a motivational statement intended to say "focus on money and leave all distractions". Why not? The statement is clear, logical, and reasonable.
Money is practical, it is actual, it solves problems that would otherwise be complicated, but it does not solve multifaceted problems that appear simple on the surface but are complex in reality.
When I was younger, I had this lady friend; we both played as kids, and as we grew older, I asked her to help me talk to another of her female friends; she flatly refused, saying I was ugly, broke, and implied that I was not healthy enough. This stuck with me: if I truly did not have money, I might as well consider staying single indefinitely, but how could I improve my health? It is a condition I was born with; even if I had unlimited money, I would still be unable to change it.
So, even if I had all the money in the world, I would not be able to get the woman I wanted for reasons that money cannot fix. However that was me being assumptive. I had not gotten out of poverty yet, but it was possible that I would, so how about my health? I lived with those words of hers for years. My financial situation improved over time, and this same lady friend came knocking, saying I was the man of her dreams and that because we were friends, we would make a good couple.
I asked her about being ugly, sick, and broke. She said I was not as broke and ugly anymore, and she can see that I have better prospects. Of course, I declined, not because of other numerous anomalies and morbidity, but because I believed that over time, she would find one reason to grow tired of me. Some people believe that money is the only thing that makes a woman happy, but this is not the case.
We cannot make an excuse for money.
This is to say that people throw money at problems that have better non-monetary solutions; they believe that because they worked so hard to get there, it should compensate for shortcomings that can also be fixed with money. I understand that making money is difficult; sometimes the amount of pain people go through to make money adds an extra layer of value to that money.
I have seen online interviews with self-made women looking for loyal men to serve as semi-dolls or slaves to them in exchange for the man's financial needs being met. This is one of the foundations of feminism, but as you can see, people misunderstand the concept of feminism; it is not about women's superiority; rather, its original intent was respect and mutual understanding.
So, when people go through a lot to make money, it makes them think that somehow, it will take care of everything else that could potentially cause a problem. However, in practice, I have realized that money can be a band-aid, a cosmetic solution to real-world, multidimensional problems.
Real-timeSex Problem
There are people who have real-time sex problems in their marriages; they complain about their husbands not being good enough in the bedroom or not being as active as they want, but they believe they can work it out because they are comfortable with the goodies that are available. Unfortunately, along the way, they begin to see the vanity in that money, the lack of happiness in that pleasure that comes with the things they could afford to buy, and as it continues, they realize "Oh goodness! I can not do this anymore".
This will lead to extramarital activities, especially if the man they married is adamant and unwilling to seek real solutions.
Some women may be like, "Oh, sex?" What is that, just make my life comfortable, I do not mind?" However, their desire to be financially comfortable leads them to believe that money is the ultimate goal. There is no satisfying a modern woman who seeks the perfect man, and vice versa.
The sex problem in marriage is not a minor issue; it has single-handedly destroyed marriages, particularly when people pursue what they believe to be futuristically promising only to realize, *hey! *The present also matters.
Perfect people (including women) do not exist.
I believe it was made possible by God, the Creator. We marry people, enjoy their strength and other qualities and learn to live with their shortcomings. Choosing who to marry and who not to marry requires understanding what you can and cannot live with. So, what do women actually want? I do not think I know.
MONEY at it's pinnacle
At the pinnacle of financial comfort, life's largest and most valuable vanities will begin to emerge.
People will get to have problems their money cannot take care of. It is ideal for people to consider more effective solutions to their problems. It can be difficult at times; money may appear to be the simplest solution, but it is the shortest and most often serves as a bandage.
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