Hello beautiful people. Few months back, I had some setbacks. I lost a friend and I lost money. someone I trusted turned out to be a SCUM. I felt really hurt, it wasn't just about the pain. It was because I felt like with everything I know and all I stand for, I fell a fool to someone I was smarter than.
That thought of; is it me like this, this thing happened too? can keep you down more than the thing that actually happened. The moment I realized that it was traces of pride, I told myself that I am human, and yes I failed, but should I remain there? NO. Get up and come back for more.
The moment I acknowledge my imperfections that no one is infallible, the pain became faint, and faded away. The lesson is: Don't be a perfectionist, don't be someone who thinks every road must go straight without a bridge.
Failure is a path to success, don't think you are a loser. You invested in that business or project and it din't work, don't remain there, heal from the loss get up and come for more.
You invested so much in that relationship and it din't work?.. God just wants you to have better.
How many of friends betrayed your trust.. so Many? heal from it. With all that you know.. they fooled you? No, you are not a fool, you were being genuine.
You can't go so far with an unhealthy mind. Don't make everything emotional.
There are very minor things that can hold you back from achieving your goals. own your happiness, don't let even pride take it away.
Well, it resonates with me who is a perfectionist, by God's grace moving toward being a realist but OPTIMIST.
I most times expect things to just go fine, smoothly, want my things to be perfect, nothing should go wrong with it, like I could discard a new dress just because the seams are not neatly done. But I'm shifting away from that, coming to the realisation that things won't always be as I expect, my days won't always go "smoothly" without having someone piss me off, without missing a bus, mistakenly spending extra, etc.
And when things like that happen, it's because that is LIFE. It won't always be rosy, it sometimes will be thorny, but that's what makes us appreciate the rosy times, and the One who makes it rosy and sees us through the thorny times.
Being a perfectionist is a natural trait people are born with, just like features of an application.
The major concern is "the bridge."
Some days in life, it will be 100%, some days will not be even if you wish for it because life happens.
You must then equip yourself with that mindset that, even if something unexpected happens, you will take it in stride.
If life is too smooth for a person, they will not be able to build capacity and ability.
A person who has never fallen down will not know just how close the ground is or how gravity works. Most importantly, he will not know how to get back up.
This could mean different things depending on how one relate to it.
As a perfectionist or not, as much as you want things to be done right and perfectly, give room for the unseen or unexpected, such that when you encounter an obstacle, it won't take you by surprise or off guard because you already prepared for it.
On the other hand it is not a yardstick for negativity but to bear in mind that as you go through life.. you will definitely come across smooth and rough paths, and at the point where you need to cross a bridge you won't say, you thought all roads were without bridges.
