Hello beautiful people. To love a man so much is good but where it starts getting bad is when you are becoming obsessed/desperate over a Man, it will reach a point where you will make him feel relaxed and reluctant.
He will no longer show the same efforts he put when he was obsessed and wooing you.
This is because you are now the one being obsessed and he knows you just can't leave because you are so glued and madly in love with him.
You will be the one calling, texting etc he will start finding it hard to call, text or even pay attention to you.
(Although, this does not apply to all men. So you don't think every man is the same) It will just look as if you are begging for his love and attention. When all these things starts happening, then, it's time you withdraw for the moment. Let your understanding be greater than your obsession.
Fall in love but don't be obsessed.
Obsession makes you to be stalky, clingy and over possessive. If a man loves you, you don't need to be obsessed. Unless you have obsession disorder. If not, you will be seeing it in his words and actions. The love will be reciprocal and not one-sided. He will always keep in touch with you, he will call, text and make sure to hear from you, at least once in a day.
And not allowing you do the whole calling and texting.
Just remember how he used to call, text and was always available at the beginning of the relationship? A man in love will not keep you at the mercy of begging for his time and attention.
He naturally gives you attention.
That doesn't mean you should relax.
Your relationship with a man should be 50-50 attention and commitment. Nobody's own should be greater or lesser than each other. When you are so obsessed and put too much concern on a corn you just planted. It won't stop it from growing or dying. No matter your obsession, what will be will be and what is meant not to be will not be.
If the love will last, it will, if it will not, your obsession can't stop it.
You have to know when to withdraw and watch him from a distance than hurting yourself.
I mean, love shouldn't stress/hurt you.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't sacrifice oo. That's not what I mean here.
I'm only talking about unrequited love and attention.
I've built myself to the point that if I love a woman, and I begin to see that you want to stress/hurt me, I will just back off than allowing you hurt me.
No matter how beautiful and valuable you are, I will prioritize my peace of mind over you. No matter what I feel for you.
Since I know that there are more beautiful and better people out there, why should I remain in hurt/toxicity with you over peace of mind without you?
If I can find happiness with someone else or without even being in a relationship why should I allow you control my happiness?
Why me?
What have I done to deserve heartbreak and toxicity you ?
C'mon, I'm in charge of my happiness, I deserve better.
See, if you should have this same mindset like me, it will reduce the way you get hurt unnecessarily by toxic people.
