THE UNTOLD TRUTH ABOUT SELF-CARE: THEY HAVE SOLD US LIES.
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One Wednesday afternoon, while spending time with a friend, a question suddenly crossed my mind. I asked her, "What does self-care mean to you?" She replied, "Self-care means taking care of yourself, pampering yourself, buying new clothes, shoes, bags, spa outings, and more." But is that what self-care truly mean?.
In this modern world, self-care has become a thing of relaxation, indulgence,and treating yourself. We have been sold a lie, self-care has being sold to us as an antidote to a days stress, life challenges and problems. Go to a SPA if you feel less beautiful, buy yourself a NEW CLOTHS when you feel less confident about yourself, go for a LUXURY gateway if you are feeling choked or even take a day off. But beneath what is being marketed to us by influencers, product owners and companies as what self-care is, there lies a deeper complex truth about self- care. Infact it is much more, what we see online. In Nigeria today the new trend or the new form of showing self-care for the females is you having the perfect body shape which I am not against, but is that all there is to self-care in this post we shall dive into the untold truth about self-care.
SELF-CARE IS NOT ALWAYS FUN:
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Self-care has become a movement on its own, in today's world we all have being hearing self-care, self-care but still yet the original intent of self-care is still misunderstood. We are surrounding by influencers, that display self care as bubble bath, luxury gateways, expensive cloths , designer items, expensive skincare routine, acquiring new items, all promising to give us peace and happiness.True self-care does not only involve all the fun aspects of live or the material possession we can purchase, It involves understanding and addressing our needs, challenges, setting boundaries and even saying NO!!! to some actions, people and situations.
SELF-CARE IS ABOUT CONSISTENCY NOT QUICK FIXES:
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Self care isn't just about you doing something nice once in a while for yourself, just the way you don't eat once in a while and expect your body to provide the necessary nutrients it needs for its nourishment or you taking your bath once every week and expect to smell nice, like-wise self-care, it is the continuous building of healthy habits, that doesn't only build you at the moment but also improves your physical, emotional, spiritual and mental well-being. Often times the so call influencers only provide quick fixes to situations or problems which doesn't really matter or solve the problem.One thing I want you to know is that the influencers are just selling products, they don't really care about your well-being, they are after your CASH. You are the only one that knows what you need, don't fellow trends, sometimes it can be misleading.
REDEFINING SELF-CARE
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To redefine the rightfully meaning of what self care is, we need to shift our focus from the idea or from seeing self care as a commodity,we can purchase to actions that genuinely enhances our long term well-being, this means embracing activities that leads to continuous growth and development of our mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual life
WHAT TO DO
- Practice mindfulness.
- Set healthy boundaries.
- Practice self compassion.
- Engage in meaningful conversations.
- Prioritize your needs.
- Incorporate a life style that balances rest and work.
Non of which listed above requires a hefty price tag, as sold by influencers.
**SELF-CARE IS NOT ABOUT MATERIAL POSSESSIONS OR EXPENSIVE SKINCARE ROUTINE OR WEEKEND GATEWAYS, ITS ABOUT THE CONTINUOUS IMPROVEMENT OF ONCE SELF.
THANK YOU.
HARRISON EUGENE **
