The power of Apologies and Forgiveness
Hi, it's nice to have you all here again, we will be talking on the power of apologies and forgiveness
Apology and forgiveness has done no harm to man but has helped man in promoting mental health and growth to the lives of people.
The word Apology is a statement or an expression of regret, remorse or sorrow for a wrong or hurtful action of situation...
It is a way of expressing how you felt over an action or a way of taking responsibility for a mistake or harm or even an offense caused by someone
Forgiveness on the other hand is the process of letting go of negative emotions, feelings and thoughts associated with a past hurt, offense or trauma.
Both Apology and Forgiveness work hand in hand, when you apologize, you find forgiveness.
An Apology heals emotional wounds, a single "I'm sorry" is a powerful statement which mends broken hearts and soothe hurt feelings, it shows that one is deeply sorry for an act of situation he/she may have caused.
Apology also builds one trust, when you sincerely apologize, you gain trust from the other person which means, your apology is given you a chance to start again,
Apology strengthens relationships, it builds bond between two or more people
When you apologize, it shows you understood your mistake and is ready to take the fault, and is ready to change
It also signifies the act of showing compassion for another, it develop growth between people.
When you apologize, you gain forgiveness, and when you forgive, you probably have inserted another way of personal growth in you,
Forgiveness leads to personal growth, it creates awareness between people and it improves ones behavior.
Personally, I love it when people reminds me of special days in my life, and I love it when they don't forget some special things in my life that brings me joy...
I use to have a friend whom I cherished so much, I was not actually expecting gifts on my birthday, but I was expecting a special kind of love that day, but boom, my friend forgets this special day
I was disappointed, and felt less important, at the same time, I was angry😀
My Friend who later remembered my birthday later in the day, came to apologize,
My friend was deeply sorry, and I felt it, so I forgave my friend
Why am I sharing this story, because, it's necessary to forgive at the same time apologize when you're wrong
There are different ways of apologizing to someone,
I'm sorry is one of the easiest way of apologizing to someone, you can apologize by sharing gift, you can apologize by changing your acts and so many ways
With such actions, one may find a place to forgive and let go of issues in the heart
When we talk of Forgiveness, we don't only mean forgiving people who have wronged you, but it implies forgiving yourself when you wrong yourself,
As humans, there are things we find ourselves into not because we wanted to but it's a situation one finds hard to explain, and such situations may in one way bring you down mentally,
In this aspect, the only thing you need to do is to forgive yourself for the mess you created in yourself, if you forgive, you will grow
If you don't forgive, you will keep dwelling in your past. It's necessary for you to learn how to forgive yourself no matter how bad the situation is, with that you will learn how to forgive people no matter the wrong they did to you
The previous topic we spoke about recently talk about charity which begins at home, you learn to love yourself, help yourself and do alot for yourself before extending the love to outside circles, same thing implies here, if you don't learn how to forgive yourself, you will find it hard to forgive others
Forgiveness helps one to be free from resentment, letting go of grudges, negative emotions, bad thoughts and many others all to bring peace to oneself and improve mental health,
As humans , it is necessary to forgive each other not for anything but for the sake of your peace, your mental health, your growth and to clear grudges against one another
Let me dive into my personal life experience on forgiveness. I think three years back, I found myself doing something I never imagined I could do, since then I feel there's no need of living,
I felt empty in me, I felt as if it was not the Grace I use to be, my activities towards things changed
I began to fall apart, physically, spiritually and mentally. I felt I had done something unforgiven, and find it very hard to move on
I never thought the delay of my growth lies in me, until when I listened to the message of forgiveness, not just forgiving others but forgiving myself, I began to see reason why I need myself back, I prayed, I cried and it was not easy at all to let go but I was able to forgive myself for the mess I created
Since then, I saw a new me, I saw changes, I saw growth, I saw light and many more 😭😭
I urge you all to learn the habit of apologies and forgiveness inorder to promote peace between one another.
Apologies and forgiveness are the powerful tools for healing, growth and stronger relationships.
We should learn to forgive and to apologize as it will help you grow in different ways of life
