Hello everyone, happy weekend to you all. Welcome to my blog once again. When I read through the week's prompt on "confidence and self esteem" it made me reflect on my life some years back.
Whenever we talk about confidence and self esteem, there are two different things that complement each other. You can not have self esteem if you do not have confidence in your self and your abilities. Most times it is easier to write about self confidence and self esteem but some people might not really understand how it feels and how challenging it might be for some people to build their confidence and self esteem.
Confidence means to believe in your self and your abilities, it means to be sure of who you really are and what you can do. It is the trust we have in ourselves. Most times we want people to trust us when we can't even trust ourselves.
Self-Esteem on the other hand has to do with the way you see yourself and how you feel about yourself. Self esteem has brought so many people down, how you see yourself and how you feel about yourself truly matters. Many a times people tend to belittle themselves, some might be as a result of a deformity and it has a way of affecting our mind and making us feel of less value and that is very detrimental.
Let me share a little part of my story, how I was able to maintain my self esteem and trust in myself. Few years back, I had struggled with self doubt and insecurity, I was trying so hard to really define who I really was, I was very shy and most times I try to judge myself base on what people say about me and that made me so reserved. I often felt like I wasn't good enough, smart enough, or talented enough. These negative thoughts held me for so long and I lost sight of my abilities. Back then I was the smallest in my class and most people do make jest of me calling me "smallie" I hated that name so much that most times I could not even express myself well in the class.
I had lived with this identity and impression about myself for a long time that I felt so lost, most times I will ask myself why I was even born into this world not until I learnt to start accepting my self just the way I am. I learnt to believe in myself, I had to see my strength more than my flaws. It took me days, weeks, months and years to grow in confidence.
Building confidence and self-esteem takes time, effort, and dedication. It's not something that happens overnight, but rather it's a journey that requires patience, persistence, and self-compassion. You just need to be patience with yourself and learn to accept your self just the way you are. Everyone is born with unique qualities, accept your strength, work on your weaknesses and always remember that no one is perfect.
To everyone out there who is battling with their self identity, to everyone who sees less of his/herself and to everyone who lack confidence in who they are, my little word of encouragement to you is that: you are not alone, We all struggle with self-doubt and insecurity at some point in our lives, remember that your worth and value come from within.
You are so much more than your flaws and weaknesses. You have unique strengths, talents, and abilities that make you special, don't compare yourself to others it will drain your energy. Lastly, be patient with yourself, building confidence and self-esteem takes time, effort, and dedication. Don't expect to change overnight, but instead, focus on making progress one step at a time.
You are capable, you are strong, you are enough, believe in yourself and never give up on you.
Thank you'll for reading through.
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