LET US TALK ABOUT LOW SELF-ESTEEM (LSE)
I was eighteen when I entered a public writing/speech competition on this topic and that was the first time I ever won a price for a piece I wrote myself It was also my first time standing in front of a crowd, with judges and cameras to present what I wrote. if I tell you I was not scared, just know I am a big lier. But, the interesting part was, when I entered that competition, I was seriously struggling with low self-esteem. Yes, it was so serious to the point I felt like there was no way I was going to win. I thought everyone else did better than I did.
Now this is one thing with Low self-esteem, you always feel everyone can do better than you. You put in your best in what you do but still feel your best is not enough and the reason behind that is because you have allowed other people's judgement to define who you are.
WHAT ARE THE CAUSES OF A Low SELF-ESTEEM?
The major cause of low self-esteem is one's Environment. When you find yourself in the midst of those who always undermine you, those who focus more on your weakness than your strength, it naturally gets implanted in your head that you are not good enough and at that moment, your strength completely feels like nothing. You need to Change your environment. Now, when I talk about the environment, I don't mean just the physical location I also mean the people you surround yourself with. If you find yourself in the midst of those who always criticize all you do, please change your circle. Come to think of it, is it possible that one is not good at anything? You know it's not possible. So, when everyone around you always has something negative to say about you it is simply because they decide to ignore your strength and focus on your weakness and believe me when I say that's not where you are meant to be.
Another major cause of Low self-esteem is Pressure. In this sense, I'm not talking about the pressure from others, I'm talking about self-inflicted pressure. Most times, we force ourselves to do things that are naturally not in our nature. Don't get me wrong I am not saying you can not achieve what you want to achieve I am saying you will do better when you place yourself in the right position. You can't expect a cheetah to win a fish in a race on water. Now, imagine yourself as a cheetah pressuring yourself to win a fish in the water. Does it make sense? Do not, I repeat Do not pressure yourself when you are not in the right position. I was once there, I sing but I'm not that good, I'm the least in my family. But there was a time I used to beat myself up because I didn't sing like my brothers. But, I'm a writer, I forgot the part that I writer better and forced myself to sing better, it went a long way in contributing to my Esteem issues. Focus more on your strength and thank me later.
Finally, if you can control your Environment and your view of yourself, believe me when I say you will make a better you because it always works.