When it comes to receiving gifts, sometimes, people are not so happy about the things they get from others as a present but for the fact that it was called a present, we just accept them because it is not fair to turn down a gift. I mean, there are some things we have received as gifts that we will never want to get them for ourselves even if we have the resources to do so and that is because it is not something we like enough to get it for ourselves and we always pray not to receive such gifts from someone.
In my local congregation, there are a few times when we make it a gift exchange day, when everyone go home and prepare something to give to a random person. Most times, we hear some persons saying it boldly that they don’t like a particular gift and even when I wasn’t the one who got that gift for that person, I feel really bad about it because it is not nice at all. Facing rejection can be really unbearable and if you don’t know, turning down someone’s gift is an act of rejection.
So as a minimalist, when it comes to receiving gifts that we know we don’t need I believe there are ways we can go about it and not seem like an unappreciative person and also not to make us just allow things sit around our space cluttering it. There are some cases when we are privileged to receive gifts from people who are close to us and most times, those gifts are things we appreciate and we have use of because these persons know us and the things we like. Sometimes, even before they get us these gifts, they have gotten the opportunity to ask us the things we would like to get as presents.
Other times, we just receive gifts from really random people that know little or nothing about us and because of that, we are just compelled to take the gift and be grateful for it. Turning down a gift from a stranger especially, will send a wrong message in so many ways and to avoid too much explanations, I most times collect these gifts but then, I always look out for someone I know needs it more than I do and give it to them. Not necessarily as a gift but a way to make sure that the gift I was given doesn’t just lie around cluttering my space, whereas there is someone somewhere who needs that thing.
Some of us are quite privileged to have people who get us really nice gifts even though we don’t like them but then, we can accept those gifts for that moment and if the person is someone close to us, we can tell them that we appreciate their gifts but that is not something we can use and that is why you had to give it to someone who needed it more than you do rather than allowing it lie around doing nothing. And also, appreciate them very well on behalf of the person you gave that item to and that will make them still happy to give you something next time. I’m very sure the person would appreciate it that way than when you outrightly reject their gifts when they give it to you.
I don’t know about others, but I’m very sure about myself that I will be really happy if the gift I gave to someone was given to someone else because the original recipient didn’t have use of it, rather than rejecting my gift in my very presence. And also, due to the fact that I know that, there are sometimes I don’t really need some gifts people give to me, I have also learned to also accept the fact that others might also not like my gifts, so I will be really happy if they take whatever I can get as a gift and give it to someone else rather than rejecting it from the get-go and then later I will tell them about it especially when I’m close with the person.
This is my little response to the #kiss, I hope you enjoyed reading through. ❤️
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