Relationships are most messed up with people who are close to us in our life. The major reason being expectations from one another. We do not have expectations from everyone we know, but we surely set expectations from the people who are close to us, which is our family and we take our expectations for granted that the opposite person is obliged to do what is in our mind.
I would like to share some of my own life experiences with my dear ones. At one point of time in my life there was a major rift between me and hubby. Those initial years of marriage are never easy and it takes a lot of understanding to come to terms with each other. We had immense love for each other and yet lacked understanding towards each other. The major problem between us was lack of communication. We both expected that we would understand our partner's needs without making it vocal.
With the lack of understanding our communication with each other also started reducing. Both of us are type of people that if we do not like something we will keep quiet, but not tell each other. This started creating a lot of distance between us. We started feeling that we were nothing for one another. Whereas that was not the case, we both meant the world to each other.
There came a time when we felt that separation was the only solution, but then my son was very young and me coming from a broken home, I never wanted my child to go through the same trauma. Finally one fine day we sat and talked about our feelings and we realized that it was all about wrong expectations from one another, lack of understanding towards each other's needs and the most important lack of communication, because we took each other for granted in understanding each other.
From that day onwards, we mindfully decided to change our ways and try to understand each other, before coming to any conclusion and most importantly again communication. No matter what we must tell each other in the moment about what and how we feel for anything that's not going right. It took some time to get into the new habits but with time we progressed and observed that our relationship was getting better. The bitterness was fading and genuinely we were getting into a happy mode with each other. Love was never the problem, that never faded but just that too many other things came in to picture which over-shadowed love.
When we feel neglected by our loved ones and when we start taking each other for granted, that's the time when we start feeling bitter about our relationship. The more the closer our relationship is to someone this happens.
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