Yesterday my Mom turned 80th and it is such an important milestone for all of us to celebrate for her. With god's grace with her age she is in good health condition. She does have minor health issues, but overall she is in good condition. As such she is a very mindful person with her habits and diet, so that keeps her in good health.
In my growing up I never had much of connection with my Mother, since my parents had separated and me and my sister both lived with our father, rather I can say not even my father, because we were sent to a boarding school and during vacations we would spend time at my Father's home and occasionally meet Mom as well. It was little complicated but somehow those years passed by. I do remember that as a child I craved a lot to be with my Mother, especially when I would fall ill, which was very frequent in that age for me since I had asthma issues. So though dad and mom did not live together for my sake dad would allow her to come home for me, but that would be only during the day time. Anyways all that is a history now.
With all of this also it is never easy to ignore a relationship of a child and mother and exactly it has been in my case as well. After I got married I met my mother more often then before and this is where our bond also started growing. She was a school teacher all her life and she would teach my son also when he was in the primary classes. After I shifted to Muscat she started visiting me once a year and stays with me for a couple of months, this allows us to spend good enough time together.
Now she is 80 and I wish she lives many more years but only in a good healthy state. Looking back at our lives, we understand we have come a long way in our relationship and it has been very different then a normal mother and child relationship. There are times when I feel a certain level of anger with her and then there are times when I can completely sympathize with her. With age she has changed a lot, she has become very timid and emotionally fragile. At this stage of her life I would only want to give her all the good memories and happy moments.
I could not physically be with her on her 80th, I visited her 2 weeks ago before her birthday because then I had to travel back to Muscat. My sister, with who she lives now celebrated her special day and we all had a group video call to wish her. My other cousins also came over with a Cake and they did a nice small family gathering celebrations with her. I missed these special moments of her. I gifted her a Mobile phone and she was very happy. My mom enjoys using Facebook and Instagram, she does not post anything, but she follows everyone and never misses to comment...haha, and she also enjoys playing some of these mobile games. So I am sure she will enjoy her new toy.
This was her last year cake when she was with me here in Muscat and we celebrated her birthday together.
I do not exactly know how I will be at that age, but somewhere I feel that I will be somewhat like her only, in looks and in behavior as well.
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