When we give too much importance to anything in our lives, we give away our power to that thing or to that person and then it starts controlling us . whether it is people, our habits or even the food we eat. And when it starts controlling us we get driven by that habit, thing or the person. It happens very commonly in relationships, where one person may always be compromising to maintain peace in the relationship but in that bargain the person is giving away his or her own power to the partner.
It does not only happen in the relationship of marriage or couples but in all relationships. I knew a man who was very respectful towards his parents, but in that bargain his father would control him to extreme levels. He is 40+ years and yet his father controlled him with his finances, his going out with friends or anything that he would do. He would not say anything to his father out of respect but in the bargain always be unhappy with his life. That's not the way one wants to live life. His father passed away some months back and after that he started actually living his own life to his terms.
Similarly it also happens with the food we eat. Sometimes we love some food so much that we get controlled by it and that's where health issues will also come up. Some people are addicted to sweets, and no matter what they want to have it even if it is at the cost of their health. Food can easily control our mind. Last week my friend who visited me from India told me how she was also caught up in this and it took a great effort to break out from those temptations.
The another example is money, when someone becomes too obsessed with earning more money, it is possible that they can even indulge in wrong things to earn money. When anything starts controlling us, we can easily become victims. When we see such people in our lives, we judge them with their habits but we need to understand that is an extremely difficult task to let go off these obsessions and habits over things and people. This friend of mine who I mentioned, his friends would always make fun of him and pass rude comments, but no one can really understand his position, what he was going through from within in his life. It must be so frustrating for him and yet he lived it that way.
I too suffer from some OCD issues of cleanliness and there are times when I am fighting in my own mind. I feel unhappy with the way my house help works and I am always complaining to my hubby. I keep checking every nook and corner of my house if it's clean or not, when my friends visit my home they make fun of me on cleanliness. So there are times when I am mindful about this habit and I try to let go even if something is not in order, but yet the obsessiveness of order and cleanliness is so much that even being mindful does not work for me. I do realize that in this habit I am giving away my power to something which is so insignificant.
Thankfully it's a small problem and it's not impacting my life in any big way so it's ok, but there are problems where one can really suffer miserably.
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