I've been writing on the subject of anger for some time now within the past days. I could only guess that the subject is a bigger one than what might be conceived about it. One of the realizations is in clear terms that, “anger is an emotion and not something forbidden”. The misconception about it is the subconscious notion that getting angry is never a thing that should become of any person. Maybe the hormones should be removed then, huh?
Anger should be understood as an emotion. You get excited—something triggered that, hormones react in response and then the expressions of such excited state. Likewise, you get angry—something triggered that, hormones responsible react in response, and then there’s that individual, venting their rage by some expressions. This should be the understanding on the subject.
Nevertheless, even as in my previous write-ups on this matter, something I try to uphold and always state clear; "anger is allowed and it's okay to be, but then, there should be restriction to our reactions when angry". A proper check on our emotions when angry; setting it in a containment box, will go a long way. This then welcomes the subject of "anger management".
Something I've realised is that we're much popped up by the emotions of anger as that of excitement. Funny enough is that, both situations can ultimately lead us to the wrong and undesired actions—regretful ones. To keep this emotion in check; developing an anger management technique, there's this effort to always avoid speaking or acting immediately when angered. For the most, I've discovered there's a regret that follows most times.
Other efforts are to quietly exit such scenes. This allows me to cool down whatever tension was building up at the moment, letting the hormones calm. Only then I know that I can be rational enough in my response. It might be different for others who will prefer to act immediately at the scene. Also, managing my anger will involve more like taking a stroll and getting some good entertainment.
I can do well and to manage anger—avoiding venting out the fury and rage within, as much as possible. That has been a goal achieved for some good years. Nevertheless, I can't forget a certain situation where the techniques and protocols had to be put aside. You know when they say, "you've pushed someone to the wall?". This was absolutely it—maybe pushed to the earth's boundary even.
What could it be, one might wonder? Well, it was nothing that turned to something. So, I had some issues with my laptop that needed repairs. Seeing this particular young man as one who could do the job, it was handed to him. The efforts to fix it proved abortive, something needed to be bought which I wasn’t ready. Now all he had to do was couple my laptop back and give to me. Now there's the problem.
After coming back days after days, turned to weeks after weeks, my laptop wasn’t still coupled. I couldn’t understand why, what took him some minutes to open was now taking weeks to couple. After drawing from the fountain of patience I had, it got dried and I had to just pour it on him. This day I came, without any readiness to hear his complaint again, I expressed my unsatisfaction. I wasn't holding it back. It was clear to him that I was angry and wasn’t taking it. No hateful or abusive worlds were used, but I sure let my voice be heard by him.
Well, so it went that day, and with the next schedule my laptop was coupled and ready to go with me. I guess expressing myself paid off—chuckles. I remembered also warning him that he would pay for damages that might have occurred to the laptop. That, I didn't hold through later on. The laptop was back, and that was what mattered.
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